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Oh, Patch....


I don't think that hiring an escort is that radical an act. I know many men consider paying for sex an affront to their attractiveness or desirability, but for some men, it's the only way they will feel another man close to them. Don't believe me? Just ask @patchadams or @otterpatch as he's called in some sites. One of the surprises he's found in the profession is that some men do not even want sex that much. Is the act of being with another man what they crave. Who knew?

I have always said that paying for sex should be demystified and de-stigmatized. There's so much shame surrounding sex (and paying for it) that it seems almost ridiculous coming from gay men. Straight men have been doing it for centuries, so why not gay men? I see no difference between tricking with a beautiful stranger you've met at a bar/club/party and having some attractive man visit you in your hotel room/house/AirBnB and you paying for the... attention. I am positive you would not mind paying for your beautiful stranger's drinks/dinner/uber/breakfast. It's a courtesy.  I would personally feel safer with an escort than with a trick in a dark park at night. Also, the escort will have in his page on rentmen if he's vaccinated against Monkeypox/Covid/on PrEP. Always a plus. 

The idea that someone were to be, let's say, video editor by day and then have a side gig as an Only Fans content creator by night should not be shocking. Not in 2022, at the beginning of the XXI century. It's not 1898, for goodness' sake! No need to reach for the salts and a fainting couch at the mention of sex work. Besides, sex work is work and as shocking as it may be for some, some people, like Patch, decide to moonlight as an escort and find their niche. It's not easy (it's a job, and like any other job, it's competitive) but many people do it and are successful while doing it.

Being an escort/porn star is just another job, really. One that comes with perks and pitfalls. Not everybody was born to be an accountant the same that not everybody was born to be an escort. But I am sure that some people really enjoy numbers and are very good working with them, so why not believe that people who enjoy fucking very much -and are good at it- decide to make it a profession? The shame comes from us, as consumers, not for the providers of the service. And it's not really that easy. Look at Patch: he's got to create content, collaborate with others, pay for his own traveling expenses, and make sure he gets money for the rent (cute apartment, btw). It's a self-financing enterprise, apparently. What I did not know is that you almost need a degree in business to be an escort or an Only Fans creator but it should not surprise anybody.  It comes with the territory. After all, if you are an escort or a content creator, you're your own boss...


XOXO

P.S. I also think he’s very handsome.



You can follow him and his adventures at @otterpatch




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  1. I'm on the 'I wouldn't do it, but if someone else is that's okay because to each their own' side of the fence.

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    1. Oh, I wouldn't do it cause I don't have the body or the stamina or the exhibitionist streak. Otherwise...

      XOXO

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  2. To each their own. No sense being prudish or hypocritical about things.

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    1. I know, right?
      It's just so... useless? I cannot imagine how somebody's -awesome- sex life is anybody's business but theirs.

      XOXO

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  3. I already follow it. he's enchanting.

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  4. Anonymous11/30/2022

    Big says,
    OMG, I feel so bad for him and just want to hug him!!!
    There's nothing wrong with sex work. Hiring escorts (men and women)...happens all the time here. All. The. Time. But they do charge an awful lot for an hour or two. You rather need to be financially well-off to afford it on a regular basis.

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    1. I know right?
      He seems to be doing well, with tons of collabs and a very active twitter and Insta accounts. Good for him!
      And it is an expensive hobby, hiring escorts. Especially the higher payed ones.

      XOXO

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  5. I used to follow a guy named The Grey Merchant who tried the escort business and quit after getting beaten up by one of his clients. That's the dangerous side of the escort business, and happens more frequently then most imagine. It is not just another job, unless you have to worry about getting punched in the face at work.

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    1. Oh, I can believe that.
      And if that happens to men, you can imagine what happens to women. And in my job I worry about being shot, Dave. We do those 'shooter drills' several times a year. So there's that.

      XOXO

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  6. Anonymous11/30/2022

    HuntleyBiGuy:
    He is quite handsome (they both are really) and he’s dealing with so much baggage from his childhood and worrying about his mother and dealing with depression because of it. I hope he finds the success that he so desires, and deserves, in whatever field he chooses.

    So when are you going to collaborate with him? You still need to send me your OF and JFF links.

    XOXO 👨🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏽

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    1. Anonymous11/30/2022

      HuntleyBiGuy:
      I just looked this rent men site…DAMN!

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    2. Yes, that's right Sixpence!!!!! Fork over those links Babes.

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    3. I know!
      His story about having grown up 'in the faith' and about his dad? Whoa.
      I think he could be very successful: he's got the goods (as you could see in his rentmen page...
      And yes, Maddie! That's where the juicy stuff is... LOL

      XOXO

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  7. Anonymous11/30/2022

    Lets all chip in and fly him to Maddie. She'll teach him a few things to increase his revenue.
    My thing is, body image. I don't think even when I was a youngen I was attractive/fit enough to do anything like escorting or sex work.
    jimmy

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    1. Hahaha
      Oh, Maddie would put those guys to shame and I'm sure they'd learn one thing or three. And I'm with you re: body image. I don't have a body like those guys (they are all very, very attractive and fit). If I had the body, I would be telling different tales...

      XOXO

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  8. I'm not sure my comment went!

    I don't see a problem with people hiring escorts. I have two friends who escort, and the one says that some of his clients 90% of the time, just want to talk and hang out and have companionship. That says to me at the younger generation has to stick up its ass. They just want to hang out with other young and hot guys. I don't get it. I love talking with older folk and have gone home with some of them. On the other hand, I don't see being an escort or a naughty only fans Creator seedy or trashy and nothing wrong with it. If you're not bashful, like sex and Men it's a win-win. Work smart not hard, no pun intended, well to a point.LMAO! Who wouldn't want to earn easy coin laying back and jacking their cock?

    Friends all the time tell me for all my hookups and sexual escapades, instead of giving it away I should have charged I'd be rich by now! And the line is insistent on me setting up and only fans.

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    1. Well, babes, I have nothing to add to this...
      Maybe except rAMEN?

      XOXO

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  9. Everyone has their niche... everyone doesn't need to appreciate it... it's a means to an end. Is it freedom? Is it financial stability? Is it a means of making our other dreams come true? We can't sit in judgement... it's the oldest profession in the world, next to porn. More power to him... and he certainly will grow and move on... or invent something new... I love that social media is making sex work a concrete thing and not something that takes place in the shadows. Cast a light on everything... without judgement. A path to happiness... a path to satisfaction... a path to pride. All these people building and creating themselves. That's lifting themselves up. So, bravo. Kizzes.

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