I'm sure you've seen the 'no fats, no femmes, no (add racist adjective)' on many of the hookup apps currently used by gay men to hunt for some dick online. Yeah, apparently the masc 4 masc crowd also adds internalized homophobia to racism and body shaming. But I'm here to sing the praise of the femme boy. Yeah. because it really takes a lot of courage to basically walk around through life with a bull's eye on your back and still manage to be completely fab.
There is a crowd that really gets riled up with this one. I've ranted before about the prescription that all men should be 'men' and not 'girls'. I understand that when it comes to fucking, there are really specific things that turn us on (big chests, big arms, bears, twinks, leather, jocks, the lot...) but when it comes to life, those constructs don't really hold up. The notion of what a 'man' is falls flat on its face when people cannot control it. Life is not limited by the walls of your bedroom, where what happens can be somehow tamed by your desires. In real life (which is 90% of your time) trying to control how others behave or deciding what is acceptable or not when it comes to gender representation is bound to fail.
What the masc 4 masc crowd wants, is for every man to be a 'man', that is, to conform to the idea they have of a man. And that's impossible, because the notions of masculinity and femininity are not the same for everybody. Some traits are interpreted by every person differently. The imposition of certain behaviors to a group of people are not only cruel but arbitrary.
Because that other guy, well, he's going to be a man. Even if he can Vogue. Even if he's as camp as an episode of Golden Girls. Even if he's as flaming as a volcano. Honey, gender is a social construct. Get over it. Gender representation is a fluid and varied as gender orientation. Not everything and everybody fits in neat little boxes created for the comfort of a few squeamish people who like their sex probably like they like their oatmeal: out of a box.
Femme is fun. Femme is fearless. Femme is above all, ferociously individualistic. And that's an unforgivable sin in society. So kudos to all the femme and gender non-conforming boys who strut their stuff in the street.
So go ahead, guurrl. Sissy that walk!