Sam Smith has talked about his issues with body image (he was publicly shamed by Howard Stern in the past) and in this sit dow with Jameela Jamil for a tete-a-tete about body image and the media. And I learned that no matter how famous and talented you are, you're still gonna have some body issues. Sam talks about his relationship with food and how he had some lipo done when he was not even a teen. And I Stan. Hardcore.
I don't really have issues with food but I do have some issues with my body. Surprise! Yeah. I guess I do. I cannot describe myself as a twink because I'm past that age and weight. I'm not husky, because I don't seem to have too much extra weight. I'm not muscular, either because I've never been athletic. I'm just... kind of not average enough? Because you know that even though we try not to let ourselves get swept in the mare magnum that is gay media, we sometimes relent. And that's when the problem starts.
I have realized that I am very accepting of OTHER people's bodies but I tend to be overly critical of mine. I sometimes wonder if I should exercise more. Or if i should not eat that cake. I would never wear a wife beater. I don't see myself dancing shirtless in a club or gay cruise. I have a weird relationship with my body. I fluctuate between wearing athleisure during the weekends and my uniform of tie, jacket and jeans during the week. Like Sam, I consider a jacket and tie my armor. We men tend to hide a multitude of sins under those jackets.
And still I wonder, where does that come from? Is it really the media, that screams at me from gadget screens and magazine pages that I need wide shoulders and a tight stomach to be desirable? That I have to look tanned and youthful to be attractive? That there will come a time when I will be forbidden to wear skinny jeans? Part of me rebels and shrugs fashion trends and media pressure and decides to do exactly what I want. And for work I don't have a strict dress code. I can be office casual and I don't look out of place. Still, if I feel bloated, I refuse to wear some pants. I still suck in my gut and stand straight when necessary. I talk to a ton of people every day and I'm basically on a spotlight most of my working hours. So I do feel self-conscious sometimes.
For all my bravado and talks of body acceptance I have to recognize that I should try mine with less rigor. I need to relax and well, not go to pot, but kind of chill? I could enjoy myself more if I adopted a more relaxed view of how I want to look. Not like I need to look dictated by the fashion gaystapo, but how I really feel comfortable. This is something that women usually feel and that many men do not recognize: there's a pressure to look a certain way that is sometimes very hard to bear.
So I need to relax. So what if I'm not a size 30? So what if I like chocolate a tad too much? So what if I don't have a beach body in the middle of April? I don't think I'm gonna do like Sam and take a shirtless selfie but I promise that the next time I pass by a mirror, I won't look. I'll just keep walking.
He then shared this LINK on his Instagram. I died. Cause from my point of view, Sam looks all kinds of nice.