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I was just thinking about masturbation. Why is it that so very few people talk about it? Everybody does it. Duh. I wish everybody were like AnneMarie, who's basically commented in this blog that sometimes you just have to take matters into your own hands. Yep. I agree, girl. Self-love is self-care and like reading, it's fundamental.
Now, I think it's hard to talk about jerking off because for some people, masturbating is something that only horny teenagers do. When did pleasuring yourself become an underage activity? It does not mean that you're immature or that you're not capable of getting someone to get you off. It's just pleasure. Oh, and I've heard that some people consider it like a tiny little infidelity. Because obviously you are experiencing pleasure all on your own and not with the person with whom you're having a relationship? So it's like a tiny little cheating episode? But that does not make sense, I think. I guess usually when we masturbate the person we're with is part of the mental images we evoke to get ourselves off. When we think about them, we touch ourselves. Chrissie was right.
So what about when we do mutual masturbation? I think we should watch each other masturbate more often. It does not have to be intercourse all the time to have fun. Variety, people, is the spice of life after all. Of course we get carried away and end up jumping each other's bones (boners? he he) because who wouldn't take advantage of a nice hard dick? So would some people think that watching somebody masturbate is verboten too? Even if he's in the same room? On the same bed? What about videos? Would that be porn and be considered cheating? I have questions.
I like watching a man touch himself. Bonus points if he comes while I'm watching him. It makes me hot and it works as an invitation to join him. Vicarious experiences be damned. Also, duh! It's sexy, it's sensual and it's titillating both because of the 'private' implications of the act and because nobody knows our bodies like, well, ourselves. We KNOW how to get ourselves off. Why is it then still kind of one of those topics nobody touches? Men talk about the blow job they got from some stranger last night like it's nothing but few would concede they polished the bishop. Why is talking about giving ourselves a hand still kind of taboo? Is it because if we recognize that we jerk off we'd be perceived as not able to get someone to do it for us? Like jerking off is some kind of last resort? I wonder...
Of course now, in the age of the internet we cannot swing a cat without finding videos of men going at it with gusto, though. The internet has freed all the exhibitionists form the boundaries of a trench coat and now they populate whole URLs. People set up JustForFans accounts with the sole purpose of selling videos of themselves spanking the monkey. Twitter is a true cornucopia of bators. Like Cole Porter sang, even educated fleas do it. In this time and age, you'd think masturbation had gone mainstream.
Or has it?