On your marks.....

Oh yes. If everything were as simple as the way sex looks in porn. But nope. It's not that neat  or slaphappy. I think it takes a second to prepare for it and between us,  I consider it basic courtesy, whether with your partner or with somebody you just met. But I think that for some men it's more freewheeling than for others, and it sometimes does not go the way you planned it or envisioned it. And that's fine. But we all should be made aware of that fact. Sex between men can get messy and that's just a fact.

I think that this generation (and I'm talking about anybody between, let's say, 21 and 36) has grown with the internet, getting everything, from their news and their porn online and having everything delivered to them in an indiscriminate and plentiful manner. Sex is always just a few keystrokes away these days. And that's good. And that's bad.

It's good because more and more people have access to erotica in a myriad ways that were not possible just a decade ago: you can have videos, or photos or written erotica or fanfiction, or M/M lit at the tip of your fingertips. More and more people have access to information and images of what we like or enjoy in bed. And more and more people can explore scenes and styles of lovemaking in the blink of a google query. But you also get an image that's a little bit distorted: not everybody can carry out the same prowess that let's say Antonio Biaggi can achieve. Or carry out the feats of flexibility  or be as accommodating as let's say,  Henrik Summer. Porn is not real life sex. Sex in real life has nothing to do with porn. But some people seem to think they're synonymous. And we can learn from that.

Maybe that's why I really don't do hookups? To me, porn looks basically like some people see hookups: an effortless, carefree loop of hot encounters that just happen to happen. Let me explain:  if you go by porn scenes, hooking up is very easy and straightforward: you look at the man, the man looks at you and in no time your pants disappear and you are in a nice, if slightly bland bedroom having incredibly energetic and fuss-free sex with money shot guaranteed. But I am very aware that very little works in real life as it does in porn. So I'm kind of weary of hookups. Not because I'm a prude -I'm a horny bastard-, but because I know there's some work involved when making sure that some nookie goes the way it's supposed to go and I am just not ready to do all that work at the drop of a hat for some beautiful stranger.

So it was good that Davey Wavey would put out a tutorial on how to prep up for some nookie, be it with your significant other or with an extremely friendly interloper. It may look high maintenance to some but it actually makes sense. You see, it's good to make sure that the sex we're having is harder and hotter (duh) but that we show the man we're with that we take him into account but being the best that we can be like in the army. So, go ahead and check the video out. I'm not gonna tell you what's about. The idea is for you to learn something you didn't know today. So go ahead. There's gonna be a test after it. And it's not multiple choice.

So, what did you learn?

XOXO