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I was reading about the whole plus-size male model bonanza that has apparently been going on for awhile. And I was like.. "WHERE?" because if I have a type, it's big and tall. Yep. I like 'em big and I like 'em tall. Not that I'd trow back in the water someone who is 5'11", mind you, but you get my drift. I think that I'm basically an ectomorph who really likes mesomorphs and endomorphs over six feet tall.  Simple as that.



What is it, I wonder what attracts me so much to these big boys? I think that deep down is the idea that a man like this would basically survive the zombie apocalypse (I blame John for getting me into that Walking Dead mentality!) and I want to survive in case the zombies start roaming the earth. But I think that there's also some kind of primordial impulse that tells me that I'll be safe in much more normal conditions. I'm not a big guy, so that kind of makes sense.



I think we have all been brainwashed into believing the there is ONE and only one body type that's acceptable to have and that's created a whole lot of confusion in some people. The gay media (including porn) has drilled into our brains that a man needs a six pack and a marked waist-shoulder ratio in order to be attractive. I think that's bullshit. Apart from not being practical, the tiny waist-broad shoulder physique takes a LOT of work to achieve and really, when you look at the dating pool, those men are not the majority. Yes, they are very pretty to look at, but again, is it practical and achievable? And being that pretty would probably not make you a better sportsman/hunter gatherer. So there.



Not to mention that I find these body types much more... real? As in, yeah, I'd do you. But also, yeah, I think I can totally find a man like this somewhere. After all, even the most sporty of us notices some differences in his body after he turns thirty. And some more after turning fifty. And who can deny that there's a certain comfort in being basically engulfed by a man. I like that feeling. Oh, that a six-foot-three-inches man is too tall to kiss? Well, honey, I'll make him lay down. There. Problem solved.



And it's not only the possibility of being manhandled a little by a big guy what gets me going, it's also the sheer physicality that a big and tall guy conveys. Of course, we all know tall privilege is something that exists, and tall people do get some passes that shorter people do not get, but that does not really takes into account guys that are not muscle bound. I'm talking about men who do not have a six pack. I'm not talking Thor here. I'm talking about a guy next door tall guy kind of situation.



With all the emphasis on being 'fit' or 'slim' put on gay men, I think it's time we break from the concept that there is one and only one body type that we need to ogle: there's more than one idea of what 'hot' or 'attractive' is (don't believe me? just take a good look at Grindr, Scruff or any other hookup app). Some of the men I'm posting here could be considered 'fat' or 'dadbods' by the gay glitteratti at large. Or 'bears'. I just think they're handsome.


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So the next time you see a big and tall guy (who nowadays sign contracts with modeling agencies and even lead some ad campaigns) stop and think about how much fun it would be to wrestle him. I'm for once, even willing to let him win. Kidding! I'd climb him like a tree. Because that's what I do.

XOXO

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  1. I like big and tall, and pocket gay,and small, though not too small ...I might hurt someone. It's nice to see a variety though because we don't all look alike, nor do we all want the same exact thing.

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    1. Haha I’ve had pocket gays. Can’t complain.

      XoXo

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  2. There are bear soup parties here all the time. I love chunky soup! Yum!!

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  3. As you said if you look at the majority of people out there you will see that the belt may have some overhang there. I fall into that group. Was much heavier and did WW because I wanted to head off any health or joint problems. Lost over 60 pounds and have kept it off for the most part. But there is still a gut because I don’t/won’t work out. I’ve got better things to do with my time. Like read blogs 😉.

    You’re right about the time it takes to sculpt a body. And as you get older, it takes more and more time. And if there are more men in the voluptuous (?) category why not avail ourselves of the buffet?

    XOXO 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

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    1. Also, Me Undies now uses plus sized models in some of their ads

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    2. Me Undies have the cutest underwear!
      And the buffet is what makes things interesting. All you can eat.

      XoXo

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  4. Variety is the spice of life!

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    1. It is!
      I’ve dated talked and shorter men and there’s really not a huge difference...
      XoXo

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  5. I'd do the lionhair guy in a new york minute!

    I'm an apple with a head; most str8 dudes won't give me a second glance...like THEY are fucking PERFECT or something! as long as I love me, the rest of the world can go fuck right off!

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    1. Ohhh he’s fine!
      And it’s their fucking loss, Anne Marie. They can indeed fuck right off.

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  6. Im 5'6". What are you trying to do? Get me killed? These guys would crush me.

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    1. Ohhh yes! Nothing like a 6’3” man all over you.

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  7. Oooh, see this is why we always click. I love me some tummy on a tall drink of water. My ex was 6'3 and 230, one of the first things that really turned me on was I noticed he had a bit of tummy, furry tummy, he was ticklish too, so fun to kiss!

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    1. Yes! Over six feet I’d climb like a tree. There’s something about a big and tall guy that gets me going. Ticklish men are tons of fun.

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  8. Oh, you're talking about Dads.

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    1. Well, I’m talking about big and tall. If he’s a dad or has a dadbod, then even better!
      XoXo

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