The idea of socializing with other gay men is something that occurs mostly in a context tied to bars or clubs. And that's fun. Going to bars and clubs is part of the fun of being an adult. The only thing is, not drinking much and the fact that I'm used to going to bed early (I'm usually in bed by nine thirty and asleep by ten in a school night) do not make me the ideal candidate for wild nights in town. I know. I'm boring.
But I'd be all for going on double dates. When we get to sit with other gay men and talk about things both light and important, we both establish friendship ties and reinforce our sense of community. We grow up without many examples of what a gay couple is. Nowadays there's more and more famous gay couples that offer an example of what being in a same sex relationship/ marriage is, but that has not always been the case.
I think that in this day and age, when we receive attacks saying that we could be discriminated against in our jobs and the government may reaffirm that notion, we need more than ever to have a sense of community. Why leave the socializing only to bars and clubs when we can also have fun in restaurants and coffee shops? I, for one, am all for having good conversations across a table while having delicious food.
So what if we institute a new rule and go out more to dinner or just coffee? What about brunches on the weekend? And we should also go out in double dates or with friends who are in relationships. It may be good to see more gay relationships up close and personal. That way we'd do what straight people have done for thousands of years: learn what we want and what we don't want in a relationship. Besides, double dates are fun. I think we should do them more often.