LTLD



You know having a long distance relationship can be a chore. Especially because life finds ways to make it even more difficult to get together and enjoy each other's company than when you actually live together or close by. But sometimes a long distance relationship is the only way to keep your relationship going. Especially one that has been going on for awhile.

It's also not the first time you've been in a long-distance, long-term relationship, right? You've already been there and done that. You know that distance does make the heart grow fonder: you've had that long distance relationship when you were a freshman, remember? And now with this relationship, it just happens that you are living far from each other and getting together is just not easy. There's always been some constraints but now it's just very difficult.

You know that the attraction is there. You know the commonalities are there. You know the affection is there. But then there's also the cold reality of distance: you physically cannot meet or see each other as often as you used to. There's other ways to stay in touch, of course. You still text each other and you still chat and are there for each other as much as you used to before all those miles would get in the way. It is just going to take more work, emotionally, to remain present. Right? And you have to remember that everything happens for a reason. And you talk to yourself about it.

Because right now, that's all you can do.



XOXO




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  1. The desire is still there. The need to see each other is stronger than ever. The logistics will take some time to work out. But the memories of the past when we had easier access help. But they aren’t a substitute for the physicality we need. So, as they say, hope springs eternal.

    XOXO ­čĹĘ‍❤️‍­čĺő‍­čĹĘ

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  2. Carlos and I were long distance ... 3000 miles ... for about six months.
    I did not like it one bit.

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    1. I'm bracing myself to not liking this, for real.

      XOXO

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  3. Amor de lejos es amor de pendejo.
    Enough said.

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    1. LOL and it's so much direct in Spanish!

      XOXO

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  4. I had one long distance for 4 years and then i ended it. It is very hard and not for me. Then my 12 year relationship ended basically because my ex was moving. I knew i wouldn't move again....im not a nomad. We're still good friends and he actually he ended up moving back, lol!!! If i did one, it would have to be an open relationship. I know my libido all too well. But when i seriously in a relationship, im not into an open relationship situation.

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    1. And that's a conundrum! Four years! That is a long time.

      XOXO

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  5. I've had a couple of long-distance relationships over the years. Neither worked out and one was positively disastrous. But I have occasionally, very occasionally, seen a LDR that works well.

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    1. Right.
      That's kind of the feeling that I'm getting. There needs to be a light at the end of the tunnel, too.

      XOXO

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  6. had one LTR and it didn't work out back in the 70s. they are not for everyone.

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    1. Right.
      I think it takes a special kind of personality to endure it. *sigh*

      XOXO

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  7. they require patience, dedication, desire, and love to work. Oh, and the ability to endure is also important.

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    1. Yeah. So many prerequisites on top of the strain most relationships suffer, no?

      XOXO

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