Questions

Cis men can and do get questioned in their masculinity. Have you been on Grindr, Growler or any of the other thirst traps gay men populate at least for a minute? The Masc for Masc crowd is probably the first thing you see. The display of secondary sexual characteristics is ubiquitous (and demanded) all over the place. Because for some men, that's what makes a 'man'. But of course there's more to it than just a narrow definition of 'masculine'.

Trans men really go through the wringer having to prove (to themselves and to others) that they really are MEN. It's ridiculous, because I know (and I have seen) many trans men who are even more conventionally masculine than many cis men I know. Me included. Let's see: I can't grow a full beard. I don't have a chestful of hair. I don't have a particularly deep voice. I'm kinda queer and I love pretty clothes. There. There's many trans men who would give me a run for my money when it comes to those things, typically considered masculine.

But trans men have the added chore of actually demonstrating that they are 'real' men and that they can indeed produce what some consider the summit of masculinity: an erection. Yeah, because for some people, it's all in the genitals. But we all know sex is in the brain, right? We react to what we react because we have conditioned ourselves to respond that way. And don't get me wrong. I do get turned on by a man's swagger, but again, many trans men have that in spades.

So the questions this trans man got did not really surprise me. People were asking about dick size and erectile capability. Also about his balls (??). Kind of the first things yo get asked when you log on Grindr, no? Did yo notice that they say that an 'average' penis is -from their point of view- seven to eight inches minimum? Seven to eight inches. Minimum.  That's because people think that tans men can choose the size of their dicks. Yep. Phalloplasty as the solution to world's problems.

I have seldom thought about dick as much as I did while watching this video. Can you imagine what a trans man has to go through? And that's the ones who actually go through with surgery. Remember some trans men do not have bottom surgery. Some because they don't want to have it. Some because it's fucking expensive and not everybody is able to have it. Still, they're men. Their appearance would satisfy the most masculine of the Masc for Masc crowd. But, what if that man does not have the dick of death? What if the dick is not ten inches long?  Does that make him less of a man? Does the dick make the man?

I'll leave you with those questions.
Happy pondering....

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