Not half bad

‘Who’d want to watch THAT?’
I would. Because it's porn. And because it's hot. And it's hot because there's chemistry between the men fucking. Duh.That's what makes porn exciting. We've mentioned on this blog before that hot porn has to do with the men fucking, not about how the men fucking are filmed or how they look. The thing is that we have been led to believe that porn stars are supposed to look a certain way to be considered hot. We put a lot of weight on physical appearance to justify that boner. And that should not be the case. Sex does not have a 'body type' or a specific age.

But I do think that some gay men would utter that 'who'd want to watch that?' question because there's this false idea that gay porn stars are basically not sexually attractive and worthy of lust after they turn thirty (forty? forty-five? What does Grindr say about that?) and they're not fuckable if they don't have a thirty inch waist, a V shaped torso, are muscle bound and have 2% body fat. Oh, where do I get that from, you'd ask? Well, a look around Blogger (because Tumblr is not the cornucopia of porn it used to be) and the dick posts will tell you that there's ONE kind of attractive man and that's it. There's some exceptions here and there, but basically, yes. Most every blog post in the 'show me your dick'  or 'body' category has a version of the same man posted. You'd think that there's no gay men over thirty on earth.

And I'm not saying that we should not look at beautiful naked men in their prime. Don't get your panties in a bunch. I'm not advocating  for the vanishment of all the buff Insta-hotties from the platform. Beautiful men have their purpose. My beef is about the idea that the only men worthy of being shown in porn are these impossibly buff, impossibly primped, impossibly beautiful men that crowd your feed.  Porn -and the media at large- has given gay men the idea that if we are not fit, young, white and hung then we are not deserving of sex or being considered sex objects. If we don't fit the idea of 'sexy' some people have, we are then not considered sexually desirable. We basically told that we stop being sexual beings if we don't look like a Sean Cody model or are in the age bracket of the great majority of most of the Helix models.  I think that's unadulterated bullshit. And I've fallen for it, too. I've posted here men who do not look like the men I'd see on the street. But that's what makes them worthy of posting, you'd say. And I say that needs to be tweaked.

The thing is, it would be nice to see some variety. We are not all suddenly afflicted by gay death bed at forty-five. Life doesn't end when we go from a 30-inch waist to a 38-inch waist that needs a belt to stay put. We don't disappear from public life the second we get gray hair. We are not not-sexy because we have male pattern baldness. Our body fat does not determine how well we fuck. The idea that only the young and fit can or should fuck is something we need to get out of our heads. Are those twentysomething guys aware that they'll irremediably be fiftysomething one day? They're in for a surprise. Even the most fit guys will naturally show their age at some point. 

There's also the idea that we don't feel desire if we don't fit the idea of what's considered 'sexy'. That is bullshit. Desire does not die with our first gray hair. Erections may not be as strong as when we were nineteen, but they're there. We still want to get fucked. The fact that we don't come buckets (young, hung and full of cum, am I right?) does not mean that orgasm is not something that we enjoy. Being 44, 55, 66 or older does not preclude anybody from finding love and enjoying sex. What kind of fuckery is that?

Note: if you have this man's phone number, please get in touch with me STAT. kthxbi 

At the end of the day, I agree with Davey Wavey. Every body is deserving of pleasure. Every body has the potential to give and take pleasure. There's many flavors of sexy and they can always be tested. I think that men over thirty, even though not all of them look like the men in these pictures (I tried to get 'amateur' pics and this is what google came up with) are sexy. And I'd like to think many other men would think they are sexy, too. I know I'm not alone thinking that men over thirty are sexy. There's a fucking porn site called literally "Men Over 30"! Duh.

So I'm not twenty-five, I don't have a 30-inch waist, I don't have 2% body fat and I don't have a V-shaped torso. I'm not muscle-bound and I don't carry around nine-inch erections. So what? I refuse to let others tell me I'm not sexy. I refuse to let the gaystapo tell me when and if I'm deserving of sex. Maybe that's why I think it's hot to look at men who really like to fuck each other on the screen, regardless of them not being 28-year olds, jacked or not. I want more porn made by and for men who are not perfect. If some studios can only put out Bel Ami-approved models, then it's time to look for something else. No masturbation without representation. 

I guess that's why Davey Wavey chose those men for the video, right? We could see more of Rocco Steele, or Myles Landon or Kristofer Weston. Or the men in these photos. But I'm biased, you see,  because the Dadbod type of the gay menagerie is something I happen to like. And just to be clear, of course I would not say 'no' to a hot and bothered twenty-five year old who's been smacking his hard dick on my thigh and is asking me to drop it from the top. Don't be silly. Of course I'd give it a twirl because I'm an ethical slut and he'd be grabbing a bucket and a mop in no time. Macaroni in a pot. The question is, would I prefer to climb one of the men in these photos instead? You bet your sweet ass I would. 

XOXO