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When it comes to gay porn stars, I always try to go beyond the hard dicks and the beautiful bodies. Just because. I wanna know more about THEM. For men who let us see their most intimate moments, there’s not a lot written or said about what they think. So when videos like this come out, I’m all ears. Especially when they tell us things about themselves. 

As an experiment, I'm going to try to answer the questions Davey asks them. For example:

How do you cum on command?
I can't cum on command. Really. It's not something that I can just do. Cumming on command is a talent. I've known men who can do it, though. I had a boyfriend who would ask me if I was going to cum and when I said 'yes' he'd just cum. Just like that. Every time. I was in awe.

How do you prepare for bottoming on camera?
Oh, dear. Have you seen that scene on The Other Two where two guys negotiate bottoming? I wish it were that easy. Of course it'd take a minute. It does not happen just naturally. I know, I know. It involves more than five minutes in the shower. I'm amazed by how gay porn stars do it. Really.

How long before you shoot do you meet your partner?
Now, this would be an issue. Did you know that some porn stars meet the man they're fucking on the spot? I think this is why I'm not good with hookups. The wham-bam-thank-you-man routine is not one that I feel comfortable with. I need to have at least had a conversation with the man, for Goddess' sake!

Do you talk about your turn on/offs before the scene?
I think this needs to be a conversation we have with every man we go to bed with. Sometimes think work so well that you just click. He just seems to read you perfectly well and you sense what he likes. But those occasions are few and in between. You do need to talk.

Does it feel awkward having sex in front of a dressed crew?
Yes. Well, I'm not a porn star. I'm also not an an exhibitionist. I've never had sex in front of people. In public? Yes. In front of other people? Never. Ever. Yes, I'm a prude.

How do you perform with someone that you're not attracted to?
I can't. I won't. 
This is one of the things I admire about porn stars: they can perform with someone even when they're not into that person. Talent.

What's more difficult, being a top or a bottom?
I'd say they're both equally difficult? Bottoming though, has baggage attached to it. I think there IS such thing as Top Privilege. Also, douching. 

What is your best advice for people who are nervous in the bedroom?
Know your partner. Be at ease with your body. Talk.

Does dick size and a six pack matter?
No. They don't. Are they great attributes? Yes. Who would say no to a big dick attached to a man with great abs? Please. Are they necessary for good sex? Nope. And I have extensive first hand experience in the field. A big dick and a six pack a good lover do not make. It's how the man works that dick and how he treats me what counts. 

At what age do people age out of the industry?
Well, we have all seen that 'being long on the tooth' is a common commentary when talking about gay porn stars. But we also have men like Rocco Steele, Dean Phoenix, Myles Landon and the such who are going strong after forty and fifty. 

What is something you refuse to do?
I'm not a friend of brown hankies. Or black hankies. Or red hankies. Also, rape scenarios or extreme humiliation are a no. 

Does your work cause a strain in your romantic life?
I cannot imagine the pressure. If our jobs actually affect our romantic lives, can you imagine what being a porn star could do? The traveling. The testing. The amount of self-esteem involved with having a relationship with someone who has sex for a living. It should be heavy. I have never dated a porn star or a sex worker. So I don't have first hand experience with that. But I think it would need to be an open relationship and it would take work to make it work.

What's the funniest accident that has happened (during a shoot)?
Oh, wow. Probably getting the giggles because of some flatulence? I can imagine porn stars have much, much worse scenarios to talk about though...

Do you still enjoy sex with normal people?
Haha. Well, I only have sex with normal people, but can you imagine a porn star? Being used to having sex with men who have outstanding bodies and are in top physical shape would give anybody reason to actually have sex with men who are NOT that beautiful, I think? But of course, when I look at the men in a gay club, or a hookup app you would think only the beautiful and fit can and will fuck.

Have you fallen in love during a shoot?
I can imagine this happening. Totally. One can fall in love at any moment, no? And imagine having sex immediately after meeting someone? Someone you find attractive? The odds are you could. Ugh. I'd be in such trouble all the time...

Do you have a plan for life after porn?
I think everybody needs a plan for life after anything it is that we do. What about retirement? What about this pandemic? I know a lot of people have had to change gears to meet the demands of being faced with an uncertain paycheck. Can you imagine porn stars? 

So that's my take. And you, do you have what it takes to be a porn star?

XOXO













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  1. Very very interesting and even the questions!

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    1. I thought they were quite pertinent.
      And some of them I've always asked myself.

      XOXO

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  2. Some very honest answers there.

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    1. They were quite direct.
      I've always wondered about the one asking if they've ever fallen in love with another performer.

      XOXO

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  3. Oh wow. Great interview. I can't imagine dating an actor, any actor, much less a porn star. And at my age, not sure if I would have the energy to.

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    1. Yes!
      It's something I've always wondered. Can you imagine the pressure?

      XOXO

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  4. Most porn stars are interesting and have many sides off camera....but I'm not sure many care or even want to know them off camera....it shatters the whole image in their mind. Just this weekend when my friend Kalen came,, and we shared my room in town...we were talking just of this. When people find out he did porn....all of a sudden that all they want to know about. Some days he said he wishes he'd never done it. His latest relationship of five years just ended....the pandemic took it till on them. But their were many factors.

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    1. That's absolutely true!
      We want to fuck the image we see, because porn is all smoke and mirrors. And your friend probably goes through this very often. It's a double standard. Please tell him that there's NOTHING wrong with doing or having done porn. Nothing.

      XOXO

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  5. I had a buddy who used to say if he was female, he'd have been a prostitute. I can't imagine that. I could imagine being a porn star though - - but my repertoire is too limited, I think for that to have happened. 😊 But, of course they are people. I do wonder sometimes who they are, what they would've done if not porn. For most, I think, it's a job...go to work, do the job, come home.
    Not a porn star, but I can tell you being onstage - the sheer energy to suddenly be "on" at a moment's notice - is not always easy. 😎 xoxo

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    1. Same!
      I just have the slutty disposition and the sex drive. I don't think I could do the actual grueling work. Because it IS a job. It's not what we see, the same way movies and theater are not what we see. There's a lot of sweat and tears behind the glossy facade.

      XOXO

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    2. "It's not what we see, the same way movies and theater are not what we see. There's a lot of sweat and tears behind the glossy facade."

      You can say that again. XOXO

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  6. I may need to steal these questions, alter them a bit and create a Tuesday Quiz! Love your answers. I am so glad that I did NOT move to L.A. or New York when I was 18. I sooo would have been a porn star or an escort. And now, of course, I would be dead. When I was a die hard top? I could fuck anything. LOL. And as a bottom, I know what to do... I don't think my hole is very photogenic these days... but, hey... life happens. Ooo. TMI. Anyway. Thanks for sharing this. Very fun.

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    1. Hahaha
      It's only fair! And you are right. Being a porn star or an escort conveys risks that go beyond mental health or ruined relationships. There's always the possibility of falling ill.
      And who are you talking about TMI? I spill the beans at the least provocation. LOL

      XOXO

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  7. Nate Grimes! ooooooo

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    1. I think he's adorable.
      And he can be a little piggy. Yes!

      XOXO

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  8. Interesting. I can remember being at the 'Out Fest' in Philly a number of years back working a beer booth and there were 'actors' there and most people either critiqued their looks or hit on them, mostly the latter.

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    1. OMG
      That's all they get. All. They. Get.
      Being a porn star looks glamorous and fun, but it is not. Too much baggage on others gets thrown at them.

      XOXO

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  9. I can imagine it’s not an easy life. Kudos to those who can do it and have some longevity. I think young men get into it and believe they’re going to make a lot of money in a few years and then retire.

    I had to look up the hanky code to decipher a couple of those. Great post babe.

    XOXO 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

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    1. Well, yes.
      Many go into it because they think it's easy money. Probably some go into because they are exhibitionists. But I'm sure it's not easy.
      Haha the hanky code rules!

      XOXO

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  10. Being in LA and living in WEHO I know and met many porn stars....a dime a dozen here. Some are very smart and cool to talk with....but from my experience most don't have much going on upstairs. I always think "Oh , thank god your pretty."

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    1. Oh, I can imagine!
      And I think it's like every profession. Some are probably super articulate and some probably should be thankful for their genees. It's like every profession. I know people who are in academia and you'd be pressed to understand what they did with all those years of study...

      XOXO

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