Red and Greene
I had no idea that Dacotah Red and Daniel Greene were married. And who are those gentlemen, would you ask? Well, they're porn performers. Isn't it funny how we know these men's bodies and proclivities but we don't know much about them? I think most people just get their rocks off and on they go. I, on the other side, like to know what's going on under the hood. Kinda.
So Dacotah and Daniel were married for two years (so sweet!) and now they're divorced (too bad!). And as you could imagine, there's drama. According to STR8UPGAYPORN, the split was not amicable. Nope. This is what Daniel wrote after Dacotah mentioned some missing money:
"Come the beginning of 2021 you found yourself reaching out to me. Reaching out because your lies came crashing and burning right in front of your face. Due to the fact that we were still legally married I was the most capable of contacting state and federal agencies. Ensuring your individual rights were being protected. I’m at peace knowing you came out of the military, your AWOL, all the turmoil, with your head held high, and with a bold demeanor. I will always want the best for the both of us as individuals even when I’m not always sure what that might be. This is not a “developing story.” I’m not here to play some form of a blame game. I’m here in hopes to portray the reality that our marriage has greater complexity beyond any blog post, and anyone that would take something as sacred as a marriage with such a surface level idea is living in pure ignorance."
Absolut drama. I cannot imagine what the pressures are like for a couple when both work in the adult industry. If when you're in a relationship there are arguments about what place to visit for vacations or what kind of joint account you're going to have or who's going to take the garbage out. Just think about the situations in which you will find yourselves if you are both porn actors. Did you know that sex and money are the two main causes of problems for couples? Imagine the minefield people would have to walk if you are both sex workers. During a pandemic. You can add to the mix that apparently Dacotah was AWOL and that Daniel started porn just last year and voilà . Powder keg.
I'm kind of sad it didn't work out. You see, I like the idea that porn stars are just like us and they have relationships just like ours. They just get paid to fuck handsome men and then go home and have dinner and watch Netflix in their PJs. Why not? Sex work is just work. Once you're not working, you are not an accountant/ architect/ data entry person. You are you. So Dacotah and Daniel are no longer a couple. Daniel has deleted his social media accounts but Dacotah's twitter and his only fans are still alive and kicking. Hopefully it'll go well for both of them.
I like Dacotah. He’s tall and a redhead (yum) and has a voracious approach to sex that would motivate anybody to, well, join him. Daniel is handsome and boyish and apparently very versatile. Hopefully they’ll continue providing us with .... motivation and their careers will flourish. Being an gay porn star is not easy, no matter how easy they make it look on the screen. Same goes for relationships.
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I have my favorites. And I like to google and know more about them. What makes them tick, are they gay in real life, are they married, do they have partners...all your basic trashy magazine facts.
ReplyDeleteIt's sad that it didn't work for them. It makes me sad that people get divorced or break up.
Same!
DeleteI usually follow them on Instagram (it's more personal, I guess) and twitter,for the smut. But I like to hear what they have to say.
It is sad that Red and Greene divorced, indeed. I always want it to work for porn stars.
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porn stars are just like us. As in our lives, even in theirs there are separations, not always friendly. I know two couples in porn: Aden & Jordan Yaric and Damien Crosse & Francesco D'Macho. Both couples split.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely.
DeleteThey're just like us. That's why I usually post not only them in all their glory, but about them and their lives.
I didn't know that Damien and Francesco had been a couple!!
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Read here
DeleteOhh and they created Stag Homme? Fascinating.
DeleteAnd he also dated Sagat? Whoa.
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It's extremely rare for sex workers to have a 'happily ever after." For them it is always a career choice.
ReplyDeleteAnd I think that should not be.
DeleteI know of many female porn stars who are happily married and have families. I want the same for gay porn stars.
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They are like everybody. They get married, they fight, they break up; and they continue to fight.
ReplyDeleteJust move on.
Yep.
DeleteOf course, that's not something we think about when we are fapping to them.
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I would like to experience the problem. Think of all the sex! But, I would have to keep my day job.
ReplyDeleteI have thought about that!
DeleteI cannot imagine it as a day job, though. The pressure!
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I imagine its extremely tough to separate work and home life in this situation. One of my favorites, Lane Rogers (aka Blake Mitchell) and his boyfriend Chad, have performed together after Chad decided to join him on screen. They are adorable together and I see that Chad is now also filming with others. We always hope for the best for them and hope they succeed both professionally and privately.
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You just had to mention Blake and Chad. I would so let them use and abuse me.
DeleteSame!
DeleteLove Blake.
DeleteI think him and Chad had made it work and I'm very happy for them. Success stories like theirs should be more common.
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Sex and money: The root cause of many a divorce. Well, porn stars **are** like the rest of us. The ups and downs of life. Their job just happens to be sex in front of a camera. AWOL is not good. He's lucky he had someone to help him through that minefield. But long-term relationships take work. Like most of the situations we address on my blog: Communication is key. Wish them both the best. XOXO
ReplyDeleteYep.
DeleteSex and money. You'd think they'd have the sex part down but money... that's a totally different animal. I think Dacotah may have done some stupid things, like the AWOL situation. Who knows what was going on?
I hope they just go ahead with their careers.
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I don't know of any porn couples who have been together for any long period of time over tens years. My favorite couple was Alex Mecum and Carter Dane....and for some reason, I was really heartbroken when they split up. Five to six years seems to be the self life. I hear there's lots of drama in these relationships ...money, drugs, drinking, cheating on relationships rules. Had I ever did porn, I suspect I wouldn't let myself settle down. I hear it's even more difficult when the one isn't even involved in porn. That's what happened to my good friends. The one not in porn, couldn't take it anymore.
ReplyDeleteWhat? Alex and Carter were a couple? Dreamy!
DeleteAnd I am also so fucking invested when porn stars are in a relationship! Ugh.
Five to six years is kind of a lot in some gay circles, though...
I imagine it would be difficult if one of the members of the couple is not in porn/sex work. Some make it work, but it could be hard.
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It's very difficult for two people from different backgrounds to get together. For example, it's hard to think of a teacher getting together with a porn star. Unless the teacher really loves pornography.
DeleteAbout Carter Dane and Alex Mecum, you'll see they're together. Take a look here, on Carter's twitter. There'a ring near Alex Mecum, but you can't find anything on Alex Mecum's twitter.
Well, the backgrounds may be different but they have to need the same out of the relationship. I know many couples that are water/oil in the surface but that get along famously.
DeleteAnd who knows what kind of permutation Alex and Carter have. I don't want to read too much on that ring but it does make you think...
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Hmmm... okay. Nobody asked, but here is my advice. Money? Keep it separate. Don't share passwords. You can purchase things together, but nothing you are going to get attached to, can't split or have emotional ties to (a pet, for example - want a dog? make it YOUR dog). Sex? All relationships should be open. Period. Unless both parties are done with sex. Just don't find it that important. Are not intrigued by what is out there. If none of that roaming energy exists? Then what difference does it make if your relationship is open? Nobody stepping out on anybody, right? And if they do? You in an open relationship, fool... what you expect? Seriously? Monogamy may be one of the stupidest constructs in the whole wide world, which - dollars to doughnuts - means it was thought up by some white straight dude with jealousy issues who wanted CONTROL. F that. There. School? Out.
ReplyDeleteYou're so sexy when you get stern. It makes me want to spread my cheeks. :)
DeleteHe probably wields a mean ruler, too 😜
DeleteYep.
DeleteMoney? Manage separately. Sex? Open and on demand. Boundaries? Clear and spelled out.
Monogamy is a social construct, inherited from straight people.
You should teach a master class.
LOL@ Jimmy
This is a hot topic, especially with a few in my click. We have had heated discussions over it. My two friends who are coupled would have blown to read this comment. I have started a post just on it, but didn't finish it yet.
DeleteIt is a topic that tends to get people on one side or the other. I agree that we cannot (should not) expect one person to give us EVERYTHING, but monogamy demands that. It's a burden.
DeleteI'm waiting for your post, now. Would really like to see what you have to say...
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