That's the title of one of my favourite songs. The most lethal, the most essential thing is to hear your own voice. Also, keeping up with the idea of writing as catharsis, this one blog is dedicated all to myself. More solipsism would be hard to find. And I like it like that. Oh, and this is a queer (and self-proclaimed 'ADULT') blog so go ahead, make your day... mine is done.
Over a night of dancing, kissing, and crowning of prom queens at Triangle Square, these trailblazing seniors reflect back on how far they’ve come and their dreams for the next generation. “Senior Prom” celebrates our eldest LGBTQ+ generation who spent a lifetime fighting for the right to love openly and, via rich personal archives, retraces lives and legacies of resistance that helped change the course of civil rights.
I did not go to Prom. I think I didn't even ask what the school was going to do to celebrate the 'milestone' of graduating. If I remember well, I was ready to leave high school behind and all I wanted was to go to college. It was not a bad experience, but I was ready to let that part of my life go. I did go to my graduation ceremony, though. I remember my sister went with me. I also remember that I got into an argument with my dad because I chose a pair of pants that did not receive his blessing. He paid for them, but I was the one who was going to wear them. And I did. And only that time. I never wore them again.
Graduation was cool. It was basically just standing up and going to get your diploma. It did not mean a ton for me at that moment, but it was definitely an event. By then, I was already living on my own and I was about to get my first taste of real independence. It was not easy, but it was exhilarating. I found my tribe in college. Those were formative years that I would not change. I met so many people who would prove to be pivotal later in life: mentors and friends who left a mark and taught me that there was so much more to life than just being.
Watching this video I realize how lucky I was to have graduated high school when I did. No, I did not go to a formal for LGBTQ+ students back then, but I also did not have to go to Prom with all the other students and pretend my sister was my date. It was not a social imposition. Nobody raised an eyebrow because I did not want to go through that rite of passage. It was not mandatory for me. But the people in the video did, as they all said, go to their Prom celebration with someone they really did not care about much. It was something you just had to do.
I think it's fantastic that all these people in the video get to go to a Prom where they can be just be who they want themselves to be. I loved the lady dancing on her own, the cute couples enjoying themselves, the person in sequins, the one that said they were there for the cake! Same, honey! The joy, the fun, the love you can see in this video is something that should be part of the live of every gay kid who's going to graduate from high school. There are many schools who nowadays allow students to bring a same-sex date to their Prom, but many still do not. In 2021. Can you imagine? But all that progress we have now we have thanks to people like the Prom Queen they crowned: 92 and still going.
I hope I'll have that spirit. I have no idea if I'm going to live to be that age, but I'm sure I'm going to try and have a go at the dance floor every chance I get.