The Origin of Gender
12% of millennials stated they identify as transgender or gender non-conforming, as opposed to cisgender (non-transgender, or someone who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth).
Last july 14 was #NONBINARYPEOPLESDAY and Alok Vaid-Menon posted this on their Insta:
I don't think I have to add anything to what was written that day. I agree wholeheartedly with it. People fear what they don't know. We are all aware of that. And cisgender people do not really KNOW what Transgender people go through. I have forever fought the cis gay men who belittle and bash Trans people. As Alok -very accurately- points out: '... they aren't fighting for freedom, they're fighting for privilege: the ability to take what has done to them and do it to others'. Truer words....
Trans and gender non-conforming people are not the enemy. The stubborn and flimsy adherence to outdated and constraining modes of acceptance is the enemy and it should be vanished. Transphobia, especially when it comes from within the LGBTQ+ community needs to be abolished. Gay people need to contribute to having a more kind and just world. And that starts at home.
Happy Pride.
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"people need to contribute to having a more kind and just world"
ReplyDeleteWhy is that never part of anyone's political agenda?
I think Uncle Joe comes the closest, so far. Not perfect, but he’s trying.
DeleteWell, politics is tricky and you know this country is not ready for a platform like that. Huntley is right. Uncle Joe is the one president who has come closest to be as inclusive as possible.
DeleteThe Talibangelicals would collapse.
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'... they aren't fighting for freedom, they're fighting for privilege: the ability to take what has done to them and do it to others'.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny, and I mean in a sad pathetic way, that some people who have been held down, disorientated against, beaten or murdered just for being themselves would turn around and inflict that same hate and pain on anyone.
We could do better; all of us.
It is sad and pathetic.
DeleteIt's called internalized homophobia.
Doing better should be everybody's life goal.
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Very interesting. I don't understand it, but then most people don't understand me, so I don't see why they have a problem.
ReplyDeleteWell, nobody would try to kill you because they don't understand you.
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I don't understand the non-gender conforming, but who am I to judge? My cousin is dating someone who is non-gender comforting. One of the most sweet, kindest persons I've met in a long time. I accidentally said "he's dating my cousin" when introducing him. And I was corrected (gently corrected without judgement or anger). And as we meet one another, we become educated and our views/opinions change and evolve. In the end, it's all about love and acceptance.
ReplyDeleteCorrect. It's not for anybody to judge.
DeleteIt's a process because we've been conditioned to think in the binary. It's the same process that many heterosexual people has gone through to learn to respect homosexuality. It's not their lives. It's ours.
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What’s the problem here? People are free to be who they sincerely feel they are, to borrow that word from “sincerely held religious beliefs.” We’re not talking about men dressing up as women to lurk and assault in the women’s restroom. Deep down in their core people have a good sense of their gender identity. This is who they are. They should be accepted on face value without some arbitrary test.
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The problem is that people are horrid motherfuckers.
DeleteThe problem is internalized homophobia.
The problem is religion.
The problem is that people does not seem to understand that other people do not need their permission to exist, bae.
The day people can be who they are without passing other people's arbitrary tests the world will be better.
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Excellent post. I hear all the time comments about trans or NONBINARYPEOPLE and always hear comments especially on how they look crazy and outlandish, especially the males... trans into female, or the males being non binary.....and a small part of me blames Drag Race for that because all they see is the fashionista , highly fishy and glam side, like in the one comment from above. . Even the campier queens hear and feel it. But the look has nothing to do with the trans or non binary...it's just called fashion. And they are expressing how they feel and what their style would be. I have one friend, more straight laced gets very perturbed when I show up with just a pair of campy sunglasses on!!!!!! Good god get a grip girl.
ReplyDeleteIf we can't get our act together to support the whole community, who are we then to ask for anything to be equal if we can't accept all of us as one ?
DeleteSame.
DeleteIt's all about 'looks'. It's the same thing the closeted homosexuals said about the Queens who threw the first brick at Stonewall.
It's always the 'passing' cisgender (usually white) privileged white males who do not want anybody 'rocking the boat'.
And you are right, even the campier Queens receive the burnt of the scorn of the 'masc 4 masc' who suck dick just as well.
"If we can't get our act together to support the whole community, who are we then to ask for anything to be equal if we can't accept all of us as one ?"
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Happy Pride, indeed. Well, okay. Here we go. It's human nature. What is happening is human nature. Damn sad to say, but it's true. People shy away and do their utmost to diminish anyone who does not conform to their "normal."
ReplyDeleteWhy else do we have so many countries on the planet? Why did the original peoples split into tribes? They gravitated to their own kind, those who looked and thought and sounded like themselves.
In the theatre community, the non-musical folks trash-talk the musical folks. "That's not acting. They're not actors. That shit's easy - all you gotta do is remember songs and smile a lot." Hun, I've heard them all. So, ya see? It happens in all walks of life.
I am not saying it's right, I'm not saying it's Okay. I'm just saying it's the way mankind is.
The only way we stop it from happening it to accept everyone for who they are. What's the old Marlo Thomas book? "Free to be You and Me." XOXO
True. It can be construed as human nature.
DeleteThat's why there's a saying that goes: "Hell is other people".
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Ooo. "Hell is other people." I like that one. I must use that along with my own "humans are the real plague of the earth."
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