WE GO THERE! | SEX Q&A

Ok, so I like Kyle Krieger. I think he's cool and always seems to have a very good attitude towards most everything. Also, I think he's handsome yet not conceited. I know, shocking in a gay man. He's also quite self-aware and not afraid to talk about his issues and always seem to have used his privilege well. Or at least I think so. Have enjoyed him for years. And now he did some sort of AMA on Instagram and I'm here for it. Because it's about sex and I can use his questions to give you a dose of TMI, of course.

Ready?  Let's go there:

Best sex: I'll have to say this one could appear to be a hard one to pinpoint, because I've been around for a quick minute and I've had great lovers. But I actually can tell who it was. It was an ex. He gave me the best sex I've ever had with anybody. We were together for many years and he was incredible. For real. Very GGG, very adventurous.  He once told me fucking me was his favorite thing to do and he didn't seem to be lying. Our relationship ended but we remained good friends until he passed away a few years ago. Still miss him.

Simultaneous orgasm:  see previous entry. He was an expert on timing our orgasms. He had a way to just KNOW when I was about to cum and he was very good at just letting go at the right moment. He could read me like a book and knew my body like nobody else. It was uncanny. The thing is, I was one of his first relationships and I think he learned things by doing me. He knew my body and he knew what I liked. He knew for example, that I liked to cum while he kissed me and he did just that. Got me most every time. He also seemed to be able to control his orgasm and cum at will and the whole thing would be quite mind blowing. 

Poppers: Nay. I can't with poppers. They give me terrible headaches.Worse than the ones I get when I smoke pot or the one I got when it tried Viagra. I understand many people use them to enhance sex and relax, but if he guy is just huge, I'll just let him help me loosen up by other means. A man who knows, KNOWS. I think poppers have vasodilators or something like that and that's why I can't take them. Also, the first hit usually leaves me totally disoriented. So no.

STIs: have never had one. Ever. And I have not been chaste all these years. But I've been extremely lucky and none of the men I've been with or had a relationship with has ever given me any kind of trouble. I've always tended to be monogamish and that implies some sort of commitment to some people, so that's that. Nothing. I count my blessings, though. I know some people who have not been that lucky. And they've been in monogamous relationships! I think that's quite the blow.

Fav Sex Position: I like him on top when I can look at his face. I also like the bulk of a man on top of me. That also allows him to kiss me while he fucks me, which turns me on. Besides, men who have dicks that curve upwards are fantastic in this position. If their dick points slightly downwards, then doggie, so they can hit it at will. Yes. But definitely with them on top. Especially if they're much bigger than I am. Oh, dear. The thought alone...

How often do I have sex: it depends. In some relationships, it's been very 'often', which is twice or three times a week. In some relationships it's been weekly or sometimes every other week, and that felt normal for THAT relationship. If I feel horny in between, it's me and my hand, darling. And the occasional toy. 

Best lube for edging: I don't do edging often. But I do prefer the lubes that are water soluble. They cause less of a mess in my bedsheets. I have tried the silicon based ones and even though the glide is fantastic, they tend to be a little messy. Also, given that we are in the TMI, I'm one of those guys who lubricates well, so I'm kind of good to go if I'm excited. I don't edge too often. I should follow Big's advice and do it more, though. 

Feeling unattracted to people after sex: this rarely happens? Probably because I'm usually really attracted to the men I bed and because we usually have started a relationship of some sort before we decide to fuck . After I climax, I usually like to cuddle and love the feeling of a man holding me, which is easier to do with someone I'm really connected to. Maybe that's why I don't do hookups often?

Preparing for sex: Like Kyle, I know my body and I've always been a good Boy Scout. I kind of know how my body feels and reacts to things and I feel more comfortable when I KNOW I'm ready. Douching, yes. That's when having done downward dog pose often in Yoga comes handy. Namaste, bitches!

Three limits: No fisting. No scat. No sex with anybody on drugs or drunk. I'm with Kyle on these. I don't find fisting interesting. Have never tried it, either, but I'm not curious, thankyouverymuch. Some people enjoy it, so more power to them. Not my cup of tea. And I think I had sex with someone once and he was drunk and it was an absolute catastrophe. Horrible, terrible, no good sex. Learned my lesson. As for scat? No.

Sex everyday: I have no idea how sex works for other people, and every couple has their own 'normal'. I think daily sex happens mostly during the honeymoon period (been there, done that). It's the kind of thing that happens when we are in that period when we cannot get enough of him. Then it subsides. I think it's natural. But I do know there are some people with high sex drives who like to have sex every day. And that's cool too.

Sex aftercare: cuddling and hugging. Cleaning him up with a warm towel. Just laying there is also awesome. Sometimes I just wipe and stay there. And a warm shower after that? Yes, please. I think I've always done a variation of that. Even with one night stands. And some of those one night stands have become longtime lovers, maybe because we took the time to just do some aftercare. Never underestimate the power or the afterglow.

Laughing and sex: Yes. Sex can be ridiculous and it needs to be laughed at. Being serious and transcendent while hanging around with a huge erection is just not possible. Don't you think?

Something I can't resist: Very tall men with big hands who know how to kiss. Really. Also, redheads and blue/gray eyes.  Those combos make me perk up immediately. 

Hung: I think I'm what you'd call a Kinsey average? Maybe some of the men I've been with would disagree, but I have never really measured myself. It's always been kind of a guesstimate for me. I think it's easily manageable when deep throating it, too: fun size (quick hint: that's why I don't like 'straight' men: they don't suck dick). I've never been too concerned about the size of my dick, TBH.

Cut/Uncut: I'm uncut. Yep. I know you didn't need to know that today, but it's in the questions, so.... hey, after all, you've made it this far and we're trying to be sex positive here. So yeah. It's quite the... experience.

Longest time having sex: I think the longest was one or two hours in some hotel room somewhere. It was the newness of the event, I think. But it was fun. Yes, it was a lot of fun.

Spit: Yes, please. I like it when a man spits on his dick and then uses it. I actually love it. It makes me hot. A man who knows how to use his spit is always very welcome around here. 

Most often fantasize about: When I jerk off, I think it's more the events taking place in my head or on the screen or on the page what counts, even more than the men involved? The men need to be into each other because then I'm into them and into the action. I don't like mechanical sex, no matter how hot the men could be. Nope. It leaves me cold. Also see: some studio porn.

Creating an OnlyFans: Like Kyle, I don't think sex work is for me. Also, in my profession, having an Only Fans would be a drawback, mind you. And I don't think I'd like watching myself having sex. I've never recorded myself during sex, because I think it'd be awkward. I have never sexted anybody, either. I know. I'm lame. So sue me.

And that's your TMI of the year week. You're welcome. Come back soon.

XOXO

P.S. if you were to answer just one of these questions, which one would that be? *winks*