Bye-bye, Ray?
I like Ray Dexter. I've had him here on the blog before and I find him fun and goofy and attractive. He's got a personality, which helps a lot when it comes to porn stars. Some porn stars are literally an avatar where we can put whatever fantasies is it that we have and vicariously fulfill them through our favorite on-screen man. I find that to be different with Ray. I think I'd really enjoy him after we fuck, to tell you the truth. I think that actually liking the personality of the man we are fucking truly helps to make the experience of having sex with him much more fulfilling. Yeah, a nice dick is nice. Yeah, a nice body is nice. But what about the man? The actual man attached to that dick needs to have more to him than just an appendage to be really fun. At least according to me.
And now Ray has decided his heart is not into fucking for us to enjoy anymore. He says his time to leave fucking in front of a camera for a studio is now. And I think it is a great decision. I am one of those people who think we should avoid by all means to have a job we hate. It's the worst. When I got my first full-time, well-paid (according to me) job I was elated. As in deliriously happy. I could not believe I was going to get paid to do something I really liked and enjoyed (and was good at doing). And that was a fantastic feeling. I have been lucky enough to have always worked doing what I like. I have not always worked with great people, though. I have worked with the most wretched, poisonous, despicable bitches you can think of working with: jealous, inept, scheming, evil mean whores from hell. And they were not even in porn.
I can understand why Ray wants to stop working in porn. It's not an easy job. And one thing that we have to remember is that it IS a job. People get paid to do it because it can be grueling and challenging and annoying and difficult. Getting your dick hard on command, coming on command, making sure the angle is right, getting plowed for hours, taking care of your body, working with evil mean whores from hell, the works. That is not easy. Porn is not what we see. That's just the product of the hard work of many people: those in front of the cameras and those behind them.
Watching this video kind of made me tear up a little bit. At the three minute mark, he talks about his childhood and I was *this* close to losing it. Really. We NEVER know what goes on in other people's lives. Never. He also talks about the struggle porn stars of color have to go through: aside from subverting the idea that all Asians are somehow submissive bottoms, it is really hard to find Asian gays in mainstream gay porn (I have no idea about straight porn because I don't consume straight porn, natch). We don't have enough gay Asian porn, let alone gay Asian porn stars that top on screen and are hung like a pony. Talk about a unicorn.
I hope this exit works for him. I also hope he's got a plan B. Going back to college, becoming an influencer, mainstream actor or something where his charisma, uniqueness, nerve and talent are appreciated. He's very young and very attractive. It should not be difficult. But above all, I hope he finds love. He seems like a great guy and it would be a total waste is somebody doesn't appreciate the potential.
All in all, I hope he keeps fucking the guys he really likes, but if not, well, there's a treasure trove of porn with his likeness on it. Good luck, Ray. Hope everything goes well.
XOXO
Happy Pride!
P.S. Here's a sample of Ray:
There are porn stars with personality then there is assembly line porn, and probably 85% of porn is the latter. I have seen him once or twice. So I love Asians and big dicks. so you can do the math dear. One of my good friends was in porn...a tall, lanky, well hung guy....he did four porns, and he said it was enough.
ReplyDeleteI agree. It's pretty much assembly line through and through with some good exemptions. I think that's what I lean towards, TBH. And Asians with big dicks? Sign me up!
DeleteTall, lanky and well hung? Give him my number!
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I can believe that porn is a hard life. Especially when you’re working for one of the “factory” studios that just churn them out. There are few actors that can control their environment. Most of the time I’m sure it’s “show up, get hard, fuck, cum, leave.” It’s interesting that he says that Himeros
ReplyDeleteWould be his studio of choice. Davy Wavy seems to have created a very welcoming, diverse environment for his actors.
DeleteNow Ray is hanging it up. I hope he continues to do something he enjoys and finds fulfillment in it. That’s what really matters.
So I guess you can now apply for his spot at Himeros. I’d subscribe 😜
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It's a job. Because people are doing something we all do for pleasure, we should not forget that porn IS a job. Sex work is work. And porn is a voracious machine. It spits pon actors like seeds.
DeleteAnd I think Davey has created a very cool/hot dynamic with Himeros: it works like a sex retreat and we get the product. Super hot, I think.
LOL don't be silly. I can't do porn. I'm camera shy.
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With few exceptions, there aren't many older porn stars still working a lot, because gay men, well a lot of gay men, only want the young and the perky.
ReplyDeleteGood on him for knowing when it's time to leave.
That's true. There are some porn stars who have stuck around or found a late calling and they're HOT. It's kind of niche but many are still doing either the Men Over 30 part of the DILF part in the many daddy/son viral porn videos in the market today.
DeleteI think he made a great decision. Stick to what you're doing while you enjoy it. Once you find out it sucks for you, leave.
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Aging porn stars don't always flicker out as their careers fade. Good for him.
ReplyDeleteI'd rather watch an older, seasoned performer fuck somebody into next week than one of the younger, pneumatic, preening, gay-for-pay peacocks pretend they are not paying attention to the man who is sucking their dicks. But that's me.
DeleteAnd I think that's literally older gay men who watch these young, pumped up 'stars' all the time.
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Better to leave on an up note... better to leave happy and healthy than wealthy and sick.
ReplyDeleteHe's literally leaving at a very good point in his career and just when he's finding out he really does not enjoy what he's doing. Few people can say that.
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Well, I don't know about other folks...but personality has always been part of attraction for me. A dick is nice is right...but before the dick and after the dick, there's the person. XOXP
ReplyDeleteSame!
DeleteI have to find some kind of human quality to the porn star to be able to enjoy the porn. I like nice dicks, don't get me wrong, but the MAN attached to it is what makes me keep watching.
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Aww what a great "goodbye". I have never watched any of his videos. But I am curious now. I hope he does find happiness and I hope that he does have a plan B. I only wish happiness for anyone and everyone.
ReplyDeleteI think it was really cool that he got to choose how and when to say goodbye to porn. And he's all over the porn tubes. Just type his name and he'll pop up. I'd recommend his Just for Fans or amateur stuff. So much hotter.
DeleteAnd you're awesome.
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if he retires at 25, he has his reasons. But porn is a bit like sports. If you are good and if you keep yourself well, you can go on upi mean to 40/50 years, playing at being the gray fox. There is a genre of aged porn, which can be enjoyable (mean: daddies), but you have to be in great shape. Otherwise you're just an old man and that's it!
ReplyDeleteHe says he's not finding joy in it and I agree that it's the best moment to leave. I love DILF porn. So many hot men over forty in porn right now!
DeleteHot daddies are my kryptonite!
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I love young and DILF porn. I'm not so much into BDSM. But for me porn is an huge love!
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