Oh, Patch....

I don't think that hiring an escort is that radical an act. I know many men consider paying for sex an affront to their attractiveness or desirability, but for some men, it's the only way they will feel another man close to them. Don't believe me? Just ask @patchadams or @otterpatch as he's called in some sites. One of the surprises he's found in the profession is that some men do not even want sex that much. Is the act of being with another man what they crave. Who knew?

I have always said that paying for sex should be demystified and de-stigmatized. There's so much shame surrounding sex (and paying for it) that it seems almost ridiculous coming from gay men. Straight men have been doing it for centuries, so why not gay men? I see no difference between tricking with a beautiful stranger you've met at a bar/club/party and having some attractive man visit you in your hotel room/house/AirBnB and you paying for the... attention. I am positive you would not mind paying for your beautiful stranger's drinks/dinner/uber/breakfast. It's a courtesy.  I would personally feel safer with an escort than with a trick in a dark park at night. Also, the escort will have in his page on rentmen if he's vaccinated against Monkeypox/Covid/on PrEP. Always a plus. 

The idea that someone were to be, let's say, video editor by day and then have a side gig as an Only Fans content creator by night should not be shocking. Not in 2022, at the beginning of the XXI century. It's not 1898, for goodness' sake! No need to reach for the salts and a fainting couch at the mention of sex work. Besides, sex work is work and as shocking as it may be for some, some people, like Patch, decide to moonlight as an escort and find their niche. It's not easy (it's a job, and like any other job, it's competitive) but many people do it and are successful while doing it.

Being an escort/porn star is just another job, really. One that comes with perks and pitfalls. Not everybody was born to be an accountant the same that not everybody was born to be an escort. But I am sure that some people really enjoy numbers and are very good working with them, so why not believe that people who enjoy fucking very much -and are good at it- decide to make it a profession? The shame comes from us, as consumers, not for the providers of the service. And it's not really that easy. Look at Patch: he's got to create content, collaborate with others, pay for his own traveling expenses, and make sure he gets money for the rent (cute apartment, btw). It's a self-financing enterprise, apparently. What I did not know is that you almost need a degree in business to be an escort or an Only Fans creator but it should not surprise anybody.  It comes with the territory. After all, if you are an escort or a content creator, you're your own boss...

XOXO

P.S. I also think he’s very handsome.

You can follow him and his adventures at @otterpatch.