You so horny...

When it comes to sex, I consider myself to be kind of middle of the road: I can be a three-times-a-week-nookie kind of guy or a weekend-weiner-winner kind or guy. I don't really care, and I guess it depends who is it that I am with at the moment. But I have known (and lived with) men who are on both the extremes of that equation and it has always taken some time to adjust to them (and them to me). So, why are some people so horny?

Oh, that's right. Sexually aroused. I prefer horny, TBH. And it's all in the brain. Why, yes Virginia. Sex is in the brain. Your brain is your biggest sex organ (sorry, those of you who are way above those six average inches, that's not your biggest sex organ) and it's the one to take into account when the sexy strikes. We go from neuronal processing to arousal to incentive motivation to genital response -to resolution- quite effortlessly when we are sexy beasts ( yes, I'm looking at you). The brain and hormones (norepinephrine and dopamine, duh) are the ones that are involved in these shenanigans, btw.

And while we are here talking about it, I believe women have more fun orgasms than men. And I say this not because I'm a woman, but because both actual research and impressionistic experience (having had very close girlfriends since puberty) have given me a very detailed and interesting view (as a gay cisgender male) to female orgasm. And still men are seemingly hornier. Correlation is not causation, apparently. And all that dopamine at the end? That's what may be making more people hornier, apparently. I personally do not believe that watching more porn changes your brain and makes you hornier but some people do (and they are researchers, so fuck my opinion). 

Hyper-sexual (not hornier), is apparently the term we were looking for (2-6% of people are included here) and you may be part of that percentile, dear. And how do you know that? Seven or more orgasms per week per month. I can see you counting with your fingers, natch. Yep, you may be a sexy beast after all. But of course, it all comes down to control (as Janet once said) so you may not be hypersexual if you are not dominated by your urges. Simple! Right?

One thing I learned? Those thirst traps on Instagram (and Twitter!!) do have a raison d'être after all. Watch your feed. It may not be as innocuous as you claim. You know who you are...

Happy Divinyls day!

XOXO