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I don't think I know how to flirt? 

Now that you have stopped cackling (I know you, Constant Reader), let me clarify: I cannot just intentionally flirt. I am always weary of openly going for a man. I usually wait until the man comes to me or gives me an unmistakably 'go'. I guess as an obviously gay man, coming on too strong may have its disadvantages: I could get beaten into a pulp and I would only have myself to blame...

But yes, flirting. I do look people in the eye and sometimes rephrase their statements while I smile at them. But sometimes I am just 'there' and nod politely. I've noticed that this may put some people en garde. Once, while being out with a bunch of people I didn't know, I was accused of being too bougie. I was like, girl, you don't know me. And THEN I realized I was indeed, being bougie. It takes me a second to warm up to people, but once I know you, I can reach Ryan O'Connell levels of camp.

I'm also very touchy-feely, which has been misinterpreted so many times that nowadays I watch myself carefully with men I don't really know. I have been talking to people and apparently, looking them in the eye while lightly touching their forearm for emphasis implies that I want to make out with them in the backyard during a party. 

So yes, Michael. I feel you. And thanks for the @Greta reference!!!

And you, Constant Reader, do YOU flirt?




XOXO

P.S.: this should be mandatory viewing for the gays, especially during Pride.





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  1. Anonymous6/08/2023

    HuntleyBiGuy:
    Oh hell no! I’m too self conscious and socially awkward to flirt. And you have to hit me over the head to let me know you’re interested.

    XOXO 馃懆馃徏‍❤️‍馃拫‍馃懆馃徑

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    1. Oh, please.
      You give puppy eyes and that smile! I did not have to hit you over the head. Did I?

      XOXO

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    2. Anonymous6/09/2023

      HuntleyBiGuy:
      I still have the lump!

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  2. "Paris Is Burning" is such a classic! I saw it when it was first released -- saw it at the first "Gay Film Festival" I ever went to!

    Like you, I'm a good flirter if I know the person is already interested.

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    1. Oh, it's mandatory classic.
      I saw it during a Gender Studies class and never looked back. And if they let me know they're interested, I can turn the charm way up.

      XOXO

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    2. Anonymous6/09/2023

      HuntleyBiGuy:
      The Google Doodle for 6/09/2023 was Willi Ninja and I immediately thought of “Paris is Burning.”

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  3. I flirt. I've even been told I'm devilishly good at it.

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    1. Oh, we need a demo.
      Or it never happened.

      XOXO

      Delete
  4. Big says,
    Oh, yeah, I get that. I'm a bit touchy-feely myself in exactly the same way, and it has nothing to do with flirting. I've had to pull back in certain situations. Consequently, I'm like Huntley: I just don't pick up on signals from others. My wife has told me, "you know she/he was putting the moves on you." Really? What?? LOL.
    XOXO

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    1. I know, right?
      I am touch feeling with men, women, chairs, kitties, everything and everybody. And if you are like Huntley, then I know you don't need to flirt. The strong, silent type, huh?

      XOXO

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  5. I don't flirt. I'm direct, seaking sex!

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    1. You'd be a wonderful bathhouse partner!

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    2. I'm very honest!

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    3. And we love you for that, Xersex!!!

      XOXO

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  6. Paris Is Burning Is So Amazing. A must see. I think I may have found my doppelganger in Michael. That is how out of sync with everything I feel most of the time. LOL. He's so funny. But there's a lot of truth in there, too. I sort of fear for his safety! I can't flirt. I can barely spell it. Instead, I try to be friendly - which is not received well... they immediately assume I am their new stalker. Is it my smile? I dunno. Oh... and the real mystery in all of this? "I have microplastics in my...??" WHAT? Spill. WTF is he talking about??? Thanks for this. I adore all these Michael posts. He is just getting funnier and funnier.

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    1. Paris is Burning is such an eye opener!
      I think all queer people should watch it and sit and talk about it. For real.
      And I can imagine you flirting! I'm sure you're a fantastic conversationalist and that's enough, according to me.
      And I was cackling throughout that video! Michael was talking about a dildo, of course.

      XOXO

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  7. I don't think I flirt directly. I've been told I do the indirect flirting thing much more and I'm usually not aware I'm doing it. Now if you and me were hanging out and you did touch me on the forearm, sometimes if I'm enjoying the person that can get me turned on. For some reason my legs and arms which have some hair on them are two of my turn on points. But it's only if I'm into the person, having a good conversation, or I'm totally attracted to them. And then sometimes I think my clothing flirts for me. I remember once at the raven talking to a guy, we definitely were flirting. All of a sudden he wanted to know if I was interested. Throughout the conversation he had actually touched my forearm like you mentioned. He asked me if I was interested, then he looked down. I think the hard. VPL bulge in my square cut spoke for itself. But I think flirting indirectly or directly is very healthy.

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    1. OMG yes.
      A good convo? I'm in. And if I enjoy the person, I will let them know. I'm not usually wearing square cuts, but you get my drift.
      And now I am thinking about square cuts. Bad Maddie!

      XOXO

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  8. I flirt but don't really know I'm doing it. i just think I'm fun ...
    xoxo

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  9. Not at all. So very bad at it. And I am terrible at picking up signals from others. Mrs. Shife basically had to corner me so that I would kiss her when we first went out.

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    1. Hahahaha
      Adorable! Mrs. Shife is my kind of girl.

      XOXO

      Delete

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