Oh, Real Friends...?
This is a question that some people may ask themselves. Some do it often. And you'd have to wonder why. For example, I recently met Mads face to face for the first time, and between us and the internet, it felt like we had been friends for YEARS. Our meeting had that easygoing, fun, warm complicity that you find with some of your longtime friends. It may have been because we bare so much of our souls online that the only thing needed was the spark of the face-to-face meeting to inspire a KiKi, but I think it's because Mads is such a cool human being that the whole thing went so well. It felt like friendship.
On the topic of friends, I recently learned that one of my exes (and one of my best friends!) and his husband may be leaving the country. I am kinda devastated. He's really one of the few people I trust with many, many things and one of my most fervent cheerleaders. If he moves to Asia, I'm going to be gutted.
Same with Huntley (who is also an ex, I think you see a pattern here). He's one of my closest friends, even though we have not seen each other in years. I also have friends living in other countries (Hey, @merlinpurpura) and friends that I only see once or twice every so many years. And yet every time we talk to each other, we catch up exactly where we left. What these people all share is that instant kinship, that long-lasting warmth that stays with you even when you're not close to them. Friendship.
It’s priceless. Especially in times like these.
XOXO
P.S. I was not gonna come back online until after January 10, but decided some levity was needed…
We need to make the world we want.
Big says,
ReplyDeleteThe folks who you see or talk to after months or years and pick up right where you left off: Those are true friendships, for sure. Another way to nkow true friendship is to need a favor. Something big, and they come through for you.
But, of course, you hit it off with Mads; he's the definition of a great person: KInd, good, compassionate, giving. And, though we have not met IRL, I can tell you are, too!
XOXO
That's a very astute video! And yes, it's very hard when our close friends move to another city or country, but such is the mobile society we live in today.
ReplyDeleteYou may find this odd, but I treat everyone as if he's a real friend and sometimes feel bad when they move on to other temporary friends.
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ReplyDeleteI think true friendships are very rare. There are very few people that I can be open about most things, like you, babe. A lot of that has to do with me being an introvert. We may even keep things from family that we share with our close friends. I think a lot of that has to do with the possibility of appearing weak or flawed.
XOXO👨🏼❤️💋👨🏽
I have a few really great friendships and, as I was often the one who moved away, learned who my true friends are ... the ones who stayed in contact, came to visit or invited us to visit them, called wrote, make even the smallest effort to stay in your life.
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Your kinds words about have me blushing! I felt the same way about yourself. I had such a wonderful weekend with you.
ReplyDeleteOver time, I have learned that there are true friends and then acquaintances. I'm still friend with my first ex, and two other friends when I came out...they'd do anything for me and vice versa. I have a very close-knit group of my inner sanctum that I call true friends that I trust and love. And then other pop up like you say . I think of you and Anne Marie as such and do consider you my true friends too. Odd how that can happen right? Which make it all the more special.
Excellent video. I have a lot of acquaintances, some very good. But true friends? Rare.
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