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Now, following in the tradition of oversharing online, what if I told you five things about me that very, very, VERY few people know? After all, they say you should put it out in the universe to see what happens. Yeah, why the hell not?  You have read my thoughts and opinions on most everything on earth so why not a little TMI? Are you ready? Don't say I didn't warn you....


One
I started having sex before I was fifteen years old. Yeah, I was kind of precocious. A boy much older than me popped my cherry almost as an afterthought one sunny afternoon and everything and nothing changed. I don't think either of us thought we would end up actually having sex, but indeed we did. We used to hang out together and even though I knew he was more experienced than I was, I never thought he'd be the one to pass that threshold. You see, until that moment he had been just a little more than an acquaintance and I didn't even know he liked guys.

I had fooled around with some other boys before but I had never actually had full-on sex with anybody until that day. I think I never thought much about it until it happened and then life just kept going as if nothing had occurred. At that moment, it was just another experience. After all, I knew I was gay from a very early age and besides, I never thought I'd save myself for THE ONE, either. Being a gay virgin was not something that preoccupied me at all at that point. But I still remember that day vividly. The guy never knew he was my first. He was just one more guy I slept with when I was young. I still had sex with him other times but I never brought it up. To this day, he's none the wiser about him being the first man who fucked me.



Two
I usually try to steer away from trouble but sometimes trouble has just found me. Some times during my life I've been 'the other man'. Sometimes I have found myself too enmeshed in a relationship to backtrack when I knew he was with someone else and sometimes it's been almost unavoidable to get involved with someone who already was in a relationship. Physical attraction is a hell of a drug, I tell you. Some of those men also had very complex romantic lives, that's for sure.

One thing I have noticed though, is that I have never really broken up an established relationship. Nobody has ever left somebody else for me.That has not been the objective of those relationships, I guess. The men with whom I have had relationships on the side sometimes have had open relationships or one of those 'don't ask, don't tell' arrangements.  One time I was part of a throuple for a hot second, and I have been the Unicorn for whom a couple has vied, but that's been about it.

There's a terrible stigma about being 'the other man' because people stubbornly refuse to accept that sometimes we cannot give the man we love everything he needs. I think that when a monogamous relationship does not work, because of sex and they cannot solve the problem, one possible solution is to open it up if both parts agree on that. But some people just cannot bring themselves to take that road. They should read Sex at Dawn.



Three
I cannot understand the fixation many gay men have with having sex with straight men. Sex with straight men is many times somehow boring and perfunctory at best. It can be hot if you're into the furtive, sneaky, slightly uncomfortable, uneasy quality of those sex encounters, but most times it ends up being strangely mechanic. Most straight men do not really connect to another man and the erections we get from them are well, instinctual? And I think that may be the lure of the whole thing: gay men want to have sex with self-professed straight men because it is primal. But I don't buy it.

The best sex I have had has been with gay and bisexual men. Period. And I've had sex with what would be considered very 'hot' straight men. And that's maybe because I like men who enjoy my body as much as I enjoy theirs and are able to show and receive affection from another male. I have learned that I need to be kissed and touched and manhandled a little to really get going. I mostly had sex with straight men during my teens, but I stopped around the time I turned twenty one or so. Something just clicked and I decided to avoid any situation in which 'straight' men would try to 'test the waters' with me.

All thought my adolescence I had the uncanny ability to find myself in the crosshairs of every fucking heteroflexible man in a ten mile radius. Some people would have loved it but to tell you the truth it was like having cotton candy for breakfast, lunch and dinner every week. Appetizing in theory but totally unfulfilling.Trust me, I know.


Four
I have had some very unfulfilling experiences with some men that have huge dicks and to this day, I have not been able to get over them. I know that some gay men brag about and covet a big dick but I have basically sworn them off. You see, for some time, I had a lover who had a big, beautiful dick. Porn star quality, seriously. Inches for days. And he was horny as hell, too. But he used that cock like a sledgehammer and was not creative in bed at all. He basically used to let me take care of him and then would just go to town like I was born to take the abuse. And not even in a fun way!

We broke up and some time later I got into another relationship with a guy who was not as big but was no chopped liver either. Same fucking story! Very nice dick but I was over it in not time. That basically turned me off on big dicks. Such a waste. Sometimes people joke that it's the motion of the ocean and not the size of the boat what matters, and in these cases, it was true! Those beautiful, big, ocean liners could not get to port without breaking havoc. The captains were asleep at the tiller. And they were absolutely unaware of it. There was no suggestion or direct comment that would make them stop and think about something to improve their technique.  Maybe it was because they saw their endowment as a blessing that had to be dispensed special favors. I think that some men with big dicks end up thinking with their little heads and that's just a shame. Think about all the missed opportunities.


Five
I like it when men talk dirty to me. Yep, I love me a man with a potty mouth in bed. I think dirty talk is liberating and very, very hot. Many more people should be aware that being vocal during sex is an asset. And very few men think about the possible uses of expressing themselves when getting their freak on. Some men barely breathe harder even when they're coming.

I like a man who moans and groans and puffs and huffs while he fucks me. I like a man who tells me what he wants to do to me, a man who asks me if I like what he's doing to me. I think it's hot if a man then tells me that he will do to me that thing I liked when he fucks me again, even if we are in public. I really like whispered, urgent words in my ear while a man is all over me. It makes me shiver. It gets me going. It gives me the tingle to mingle. I like to hear his labored breath as he's about to come. I like a man who lets it go when climax hits him. I like to hear him when he reaches the point of no return: those deep moans/groans a man lets go when he's cumming are music to my ears. Yep. I'm that guy.



And I think that's enough oversharing for a lifetime. What, didn't you know that TMI is the bane of the internet?

Toodles!

XOXO

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  1. Very interesting!!!

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    1. Thanks! Oversharing is my super power!
      LOL

      XOXO

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  2. I’m glad you share as you do. Not that I learned anything new. But it reminds me how much I miss seeing you.

    Now if you’ll excuse me I have to take care of some urgent business. 😘

    XOXO 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

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    1. Miss you too, bae.
      It's been awhile.

      XOXO

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  3. Great share.
    I'm with you on some--inches for days isn't necessarily a good thing--and not on others--I could never be the other man--and with you on some others--sex with straight guys is overrated … I only did it once and while it was really good, the very next day he was straighter than ever and I kept saying , "Do you remember where your dick was last night?" Hetero-amnesia.

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    1. Oh, he was playing a version of 'was I drunk last night'? Been there. Done them.
      Those are the Down Low masters.

      XOXO

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  4. I've refused ONE dick after he took his underwear off. I couldn't even get it in my mouth let alone my ass. I have had one big dick rough fuck and ended up in a doctors office. But, my biggest regret is having a relationship with a married man. He was the first person who said "I love you" to me. But a bunch of crap that was, I was 18/19 and he was one of my professors at college. He was a hitter and biter and into SM play and fucked anybody he could get his hands on.

    Sometimes it is not healthy to revisit the past. But posts like this one today is one of the reasons I follow you.

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    1. Oh yeah. Married men. We should get together and dish about those stories. And thanks, Jimmy! You're too sweet.

      XOXO

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  5. TMI? Nah... One can find so much bullshit on the net. One of the nicest things about following you is knowing that you put yourself in the words. That makes the blog real; makes you real.

    Self=professed straight dudes are just guys struggling to understand human sexuality. It's labels that hold them back from true enjoyment. Granted, some of them really do want the blow job because their wives/girlfriends won't go down on them. But, mostly, IMO, they can't break away from what society has pounded into their brains.

    Big dicks? Oh, my brother could tell you the foibles. Poor guy. He finally found a woman who didn't run screaming into the night, married her, and within a short time she didn't want anything more to do with it.

    I'll be honest - after all, I've been so on my own blog. Yep, I was married during the times I attended those jack-off groups. Bisexuality isn't something one can simply turn off. To attempt to do so makes one feel as if a giant hole is bored through the chest. So, it was with permission that I went to those meetings every once in a while.

    So, TMI? Nah....you're being real. xoxo

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    1. LOL
      Thanks! Oversharing is something that we bloggers do periodically, I guess. It's the trying to find commonalities, what pushes us to tell all these things.
      Sorry about your brother! Hope he's found someone who can appreciate him.
      And you are right. Bisexuality is just another sexual orientation, we cannot change who we ARE.

      XOXO

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  6. Hi tootes!!!!!

    Seems you and me have wayyyyyyyy alot in common. I was also in a troupe for almost two years....it was one the the hottest and most lovely relationships i ever had. But i will admit to still being drawn to and enjoying a nice sizable delicatessen salami!!!!!!!!

    Be back soon💋

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    1. Maddie!
      So good to read you! And yes, we DO have tons ins common! We should talk about how better appreciate a good salami!

      XOXO

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  7. I think I need a cold shower.. or to find out where you live! I was a good little boy but to be honest it was because I lived in a remote community with very few but extremely homophobic kids. I had no opportunities to experiment. If an older boy that I trusted tried to have sex with me I probably would have.
    I love a guy that expresses himself as well, I like some noise. I'm often told, "how can a little guy be so noisy in bed" I like to fully enjoy the moment. I wish I was opened minded ten years ago, my boyfriend had a very low sex drive and asked if I wanted to bring in a third, I said no, I regret that but I wasn't "there" yet in my thinking. I regret not trying something like that.
    There is nothing that surprised me here, this is who I felt you are, I see no problem. We all live and learn, you're just being honest about it.

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    1. Hahahaha
      I'm right below you, Steven! I think we share Lake Michigan!
      And you know that things happen for a reason. Like having sex early or not introducing a third one in a relationship: we may not be ready for them. But they're good for gaining perspective, no?

      XOXO

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  8. Well, I feel like I know you so much better now, LOL!

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    1. LMAOOO
      I know, right? Oversharing, the gift that keeps giving.

      XOXO

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  9. 1 - I was 23 for my first sex (a late bloomer)

    2 - I have been "the other woman" twice

    3 - I have only fucked str8 guys

    4 - my sex partners have all been in the "regular" range. you needed a magnifying glass to see myh ex-husband's dick. have never had a "whopper dick"

    5 - I like a man who talks dirty to me

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    1. Oh, dear AnneMarie. Your ex had it coming, no? LOL
      We get along well for a reason, no?

      XOXO

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  10. Interesting
    I can't remember that far back

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    1. Ha!
      I'm sure you can. You do have stories, too!

      XOXO

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  11. Wow! Just call me Mr. Innocent.

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    1. You're full of it, Dave.
      I bet you DO have stories to tell. You should write some erotica. Seriously. I'd read it.

      XOXO

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  12. Well, well, well ... that is indeed a lot of information. Your info about the big dicks is interesting. It reminds me of someone that isn't considered handsome or hot but they are cute enough. They have to work on their personality and other qualities to woo their partners. Maybe the dudes with the giant wieners think that is enough and haven't worked on other areas to be more generous lovers.

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    1. That is a perfect analogy.
      Many men with big dicks relay on them the way pretty women relay on pretty and do not work on their personalities or their relationships.
      Very wise.

      XOXO

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  13. I'm pretty sure you have already revealed two of these deep deep dark secrets already. Clearly there are deeper darker secrets to mine for this meme.

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  14. As you guessed I love sex and lots of it. I find I have to be in a open relationship. I have a very healthy addiction to sex, love cocks of all sizes. I too started early with a neighbor guy, and actually fucked around with a cousin for years. When I did architectural landscaping, I did work for a couple. The guy approached me one day about having a threesome with he and his wife. After some thought, I did it, he was hot as hell. The wife watched for some time, before joining in. I had no problem with her at all, and actually enjoyed tity fucking her. They were both into cock worship, so who was I too complain. One of the hottest sex nights I had.

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    1. Oh, I love sex, too. Don't have all I want, though, LOL
      I find that people who enjoy themselves sexually tend to be much better to be around than the repressed/unsatisfied ones. People who have a healthy libido and explore it are much more easy to talk to and be with. They don't have that deep-seated bitterness sexually frustrated people seem to carry like a wet blanket.

      XOXO

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