Gray
Steven was talking about getting some gray and how that kind of creeped up on him (Steven and I seem to always be on the same page. I know, weird!). I think it's bound to happen to everybody and I guess it's a normal process, unless we go all out gray in our twenties, for example. For many of us, it's a slow process (after all, we look at our mugs in the mirror every day, so we don't notice anything 'new') and if we are not blonds or have Mediterranean blood it's going to take a hot minute for us to notice that we are starting to gray. But I like gray in men. I don't see it as a drawback.
I imagine that the dreaded gray is kind of a byproduct of the tendency that some gay men have to put a heavy emphasis on youth and what youth implies: sexual prowess and desirability. We treat sex appeal as currency in some gay circles, that's for sure. The whole idea of a full head of hair with no gray and a hard, toned, muscular body is something we have been lead to believe is the ideal gay men should strive to achieve AND keep. And that's just not realistic. Even the twinkiest of twinks and the most muscular of the muscle boys will get gray and softer at one point. Duh. It's nature.
I told Steven to not try and camouflage his gray. I think men who start getting gray should show it off. I understand that people who work in corporate environments try to look youthful as long as they can so they can 'compete' with the young new blood, but we are not all in that position. I have the suspicion that when we, as gay men, dread graying at the temples it has more to do with being desirable to other men. And in may instances it is that apprehension what keeps us from enjoying that touch of gray.
And because I have a slutty disposition and I DO like men with some gray, I decided to troll the web for some men that demonstrate my point:
Oh yes, they're fit and hard. They're porn stars, duh. But my point stands. Gray is hot. So let it show.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but don’t stress about the grays, your salt and pepper look is hot— Robbie Couch (@robbie_couch) February 20, 2020
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If a guy has salt and pepper or gray hair....watch the he'll out. I'm hard in an instant and this fox will be circling its prey to take to bed 👿😈👿
ReplyDeleteProbably the very reason I'm attracted to Warbucks. And other features!!!!!
Ohhh yes. I especially like close-cropped salt and pepper. Now, if it's almost white, he better watch it. Yum.
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maddie got me to stop coloring and embrace my salt-n-pepa.
ReplyDelete#1 and #6 above are TOTES fuckable, as is anderson cooper.
That's fab. And it saves you tons on hair dye. I should know. My hair is currently a weird shade of slate. I decided to bleach it for the summer about two years ago and I've kept it. Ironic, I guess.
DeleteAnd to me it's #3 and #7, please.
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Anderson could get it any time. All of the guys you posted could. We tend to gravitate to the hot young bodies, trying to stave off the realities of getting older. But once we accept it and embrace our bodies and the knowledge we’ve gained, I think we’ll be better off. And there are those out there like you and Maddie that like us old foggies with some mileage on them.
ReplyDeleteSo I’ll take every gray hair I’ve got. I’ve earned them.
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Hi...we haven't been formally introduced, but im Mistress Borghese of the Pennsylvania Borghese's....that gin country!!! Come sit by me dear Huntley.......*pats the sofa cushion*
Delete*blushes - A pleasure to meet you my dear.
DeleteOkay just so we're clear here, Maddie my fiance in my head (& blogosphere) so I'm watching how close everyone is sitting to each other!
DeleteWait. Is this going to be a foursome? Because then I will need my toiletries.
DeleteAnd your gray looks just right, Bae. You've earned it.
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I wonder what your browser search history reads like ? Embrace old age, it is a pleasure denied too many.
ReplyDeleteIt's all naked men, politics and gay shit. In that order.
DeleteAnd people should enjoy whatever stage in life they are at a given moment. It's a losing battle, to rebel against time. Besides, some people go gray in their thirties, so there's that.
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I told Steven to not try and camouflage his gray.
ReplyDeleteso right! I can stand men hidding their real age and their gray!
It's useless. So much work.
DeleteBesides, I think Steven is a ginger so he may look extra yummy with some gray....
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Once, I had a man who sucked my cock: he had colored his gray hair with a red tint. Sooo bad, very fake, very disappointing!
DeleteHow do we know that you and Steven aren't actually the same person? One person, two blogs. It all makes sense now.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha
DeleteYou are a darling. But no, we are not one person. Hey, I would have told you guys everything about those naked parties he's been to. And posted pics.
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I didn't like the gray when it first appeared, but now I'm good with it, and there are days when I look at it and think, YASSSSSS.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely. Besides, I think that the gray-sideburns look is devastating. Especially with a good haircut. Seriously.
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My handyman dyes his hair and beard weekly. Plus gets it it cut every week as well. It is a viscous cycle. My husband is a 'fading ginger' and the beard looks muddy but the hair is gorgeous.
ReplyDeleteHoly shit! Weekly? Even if it's Just For Men, that's a budget.
DeleteI bleached my hair about two years ago and right now it's some weird shade of gray (slate, says the tube) but I'm loving it. I color it every month, more or less, and rock the dark roots for as long as I can. I love the blatant artificiality of it.
Fading gingers are HAWT.
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Well... I've posted my picture from time to time.. just saying. Thanks Debra but I'm no where near the blogger that Sixpence is. I'm a very down to earth gay country guy. I used to shop at Sears for Pete's sake, I'm certainly not going to colour my hair or buy a wig lol. My issue with grey hair is not desirability, it's the measurement of time that it signals.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm here to testify that my future husband looks frickin hot with a five o clock shadow!!!!!!! Im ready to grab my ankles!!!!
DeleteOh children im frisky today.......
maddie is frisky EVER DAMN DAY! that gurl has the stamina of the energizer bunny!
DeleteOh, Steven. You know we love you. And we are going to need more pics of you with a five o'clock shadow? Pretty please?
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I've gone almost completely gray now. The occasional strand of dark rather than the occasional gray. :-) When the gray started, it didn't bother me a bit. I've earned every fucking one. And I've earned every wrinkle on my face - mostly laugh lines around the eyes and mouth, because....well, because laughter keeps me going. xoxo
ReplyDeleteOhhhh. Really? Nice.
DeleteAnd I think gray hair is well, natural. I'm prepping right now and will be ready when the time comes. I hope I go gray quickly (I know some people who have gone overall gray in about two years) and I plan to rock it.
Laugh lines are good lines.
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Grow the gray in all it's glory!!
ReplyDeleteYes! Is there any other way?
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I am going gray but I am not ready to go without a fight. I use a gray reducing shampoo for the beard. I know I should stop but I am also dumb. =)
ReplyDeleteLMAOOO. Oh I love men who confess to their vanity. Come sit with me.
DeleteAnd I think beards are more difficult to groom. The ones I've been in contact with, take a while to even out when going gray. I think they tend to be more difficult to manage than gray hair and need to be well groomed ...
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That's life for you, baby. Changes.
ReplyDeleteI know, right? Nothing is going to change that.
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