Drama!

There's nothing sexier than a man with a sense of humor. It basically beats physical beauty, age, and most of the indicators that some people usually follow to decide they're into somebody. At least in my book. You see, the capacity to not taking himself too seriously is one of the things that I find most attractive in a man. Oh, I also look at his hands, his smile, his eyes and his crotch. Because of course I do. Duh. I'm slutty.

But the first thing I would notice in a man that I'm considering to bed is his sense of humor. That's why I always have a date first and survey his capacity to laugh (at himself, at life and at Republicans, in that order) before I let him hit it.  Because if he's got a sense of humor, he's gonna be good in the sack. Bjork cannot be wrong: a wicked sense of humor suggests exciting sex: it's Venus as a boy. If he can appreciate the humor in what life throws at us, he is gonna be able to do me good. It's a non-scientific observation, but it's been proven true for me.

A man with the capacity to laugh at himself and at life is something that I have learned to appreciate. It means (to me) that he's self-aware, can reflect on things and is observant. Too many men fall in the trap of taking themselves too seriously. For them, their sense of masculinity does not allow for laughter or to stop giving themselves the outmost importance. It's all about them. All the time.

If I wanted to fuck some guy who thought he was the Marlboro man (unmoved, unaware, unthinking and unmotivated) I would date a gay Republican (barf). The thing with men who pretend to not have feelings or to be a perfect macho man is that they are so disconnected from their thoughts that they can only achieve surface awareness of themselves and their surroundings. So they are a bore. Even if they're handsome. Even if they're young and hung and full of cum. Even if they're nice people at the end of the day. Toxic masculinity is not a good look. It's gonna be a no from me. Thankyouverymuch.

And he does not have to be campy but it's nice if he can appreciate and understand camp. He does not have to carry on like a house on fire, but realize that flaming is a weapon some use well. I think that a man who can appreciate the funny in himself and others is interesting because that means he's a  keen observer. Men who are unaware of everybody and everything but themselves are, at the end of the day, selfish and craven. They have nothing really deep to say because they do not reflect on the world around them or are able to see their own flaws. A man who can laugh about his shortcomings or mistakes is a man who knows himself. And anybody who knows himself, knows he's not perfect. And that's sexy.


XOXO

P.S. if you are friends with Michael Hartney, please send him my way. I need to practice my duck walk. With him.