BOYS ON THE SIDE

So, I like fucking. Having a man press me like I'm the news is something that I thoroughly enjoy. Now that THAT'S out of the way, let's recognize that not every gay man likes to fuck. There are many, many other ways to express intimacy with another man and as many ways to get an orgsam, if that's what the person likes. And that's something that we all should talk about more. Especially when we're in a relationship with someone. ESPECIALLY if we are starting a relationship with someone. So many heartbreaks and sleepless nights would be avoided if we would just talk about what we like about sex more, that I don't understand how is it that people don't have this conversation more often.

I once had a thing with a guy who loved frottage. He's a big bruiser, over six feet tall (yeah, I know) and when that man hugged me, he HUGGED me. And he loved to do frottage. And it was hot as all hell. He could cum buckets, too, so there's that. Another man I had was partial to oral. You'd give him a good blow job and he would be as happy as he could be. He was VERY vocal about his pleasure, too, which I loved. He'd be game for other stuff in bed but oral has his thing: in the car, in his office, in the park, you name it. Head was the name of the game with him. And I was more than happy to please him because he did please me too.

And there's the ones that like fucking. And they are fantastic at it. I'm thankful every day for those men because we don't have to negotiate anything. We get down to business and things just run smoothly. It's like a dance. But it's not always that easy. That comes with trust and affection and communication. I know, there's more to life than sex, but when you click with someone at many levels, isn't having sex with him fantastic? When it seems to be like he can read your mind, he knows you so well? When you both like the same things in bed? Isn't that the coolest feeling? 

I love how Michael Henry brings these things to the table and in such a fantastically funny way! We try to be very sex positive in this blog (well, I try because of course I do) and I think sex should be a topic covered by anybody who wants to get in a relationship (temporary, with benefits, long term, you name it) with somebody else. What if you're Ace? What if you're Demisexual? What if you fuck differently? What if you are a Side?  Whomever you're fucking should know those things. Fuck first, says Dan Savage. And I could not agree more.

XOXO

P.S. @yourfriendkevin? Yes, please. And twice on weekends.