OUCH!
It's been a hot minute since I've been in the apps (TLWR it was a momentary lapse of judgement and the result of a bet) but I cannot remember you could 'block' people you did not like? Maybe memory is not serving me well (it's been like what, ten years? That's millennia in Gay Years) so I could be wrong. I should ask around. I'm sure some of my man friends still use them.
The thing is, I would think that's a very common occurrence: the old Fuck and Run strategy updated for the XXI century. *sigh* I still remember men trying to pick me up at a club or bar, and being able to politely let them down with a smile or let it open for another time, if I was just ready to go home. Alone. Now they just block you on their phones. Isn't it kind of rude? It makes me nostalgic for the 'good old times', even though it is really not that long ago, right? And that's not rhetorical. I'm sure some of you did have the chance to cruise a guy the way it was intended: face to face.
In any case, Michael manages to bring the laughs while laying the truth thick as molasses. He also brings @trevorsilva to the yard and for that, I will be eternally grateful. Thanks Michael!!
XOXO
obviosly he's fucking sexy. I wonder if his eyes are really blue. It's a precious and wonderful detail, imho, beause this colour is so rare in black people.
ReplyDeleteYes, he is!
DeleteAnd it could be that his eyes are blue. He could be Dominican/ mixed race/ Caribbean and you know those islands have a ton of Dutch/European influence...
XOXO
Big says,
ReplyDeleteToo funny! He always makes me laugh. I've never done the apps. Don't you think it takes all the fun out of things? XOXO
Oh, Michael is a treasure.
DeleteAnd the apps are a double-edged sword: tons of sex and tons of rejection. And they make everything very... transactional? But in the cold sense of the word. No warmth.
XOXO
HuntleyBiGuy:
ReplyDeleteMichael hits another home run (that’s a baseball term, babe 😜). I also don’t remember the ability to block guys back in the stone ages. I think it would come in handy, though. If you tell someone that you’re not interested or that it didn’t work out for you, and they persist then that could warrant a block. But being the person I am, I would go with kindness first.
XOXO 👨🏼❤️💋👨🏽
HuntleyBiGuy:
DeleteOh and Trevor is FANTASTIC!
Wait what?
DeleteYou're now trowing baseball terms here? Outrageous!
And I don't remember the blocking capacity either. Who knows. And yes, you'd go with kindness first. And you're irresistible, no?
As for Trevor? Yum.
XOXO
Never used apps. I always found life interesting enough without them.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it?
DeleteI like the idea of meeting someone face to face, in a fucking supermarket or at a bar. But really seeing them. The whole app thing is actually boring and horrible for our self-esteem.
XOXO
HuntleyBiGuy:
DeleteOr arrange to meet at Panera 😎
Of course your all too pertinent post is follow by pictures of men I would welcome a good healthy fuck followed by a block. Sometimes the fuckee is the one that just wants to let it be known that they got what they wanted no just go forth young man.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha
DeleteI'm here to serve. And yes, I would also welcome a good healthy fuck from someone like that. And you may be right concerning who is the one who wants to move on...
XOXO
I've been with Carlos for so long I'm not sure I ever app'd.
ReplyDeletePS I'd let him hit it, too.
Hahaha
DeleteOh, yes. Twice on Saturdays.
And it's so sweet that you never had to worry about the damn apps!!!
XOXO
"Princess Diana is alive, you know" hahahahaha!
ReplyDeleteOMG the gaggery.
DeleteI usually have to watch the videos up to three times cause I keep missing jokes because I'm cackling so hard.
XOXO
This post just popped up in my reader!!!! And you in the hell would turn that down?!?!?! His eyes alone could get my in bed!!!!
ReplyDeleteBut alas, I never did the apps thing. I heard to many horror stories, and how negative it all was so I avoided it and them. And I never seemed to have a shortage of men dick and sex, so why bother?!? LOL!!!!
Hahaha
DeleteI usually do a round in my follows because Blogger sometimes does not put you guys in my feed. I miss posts because of that.
And he's dreamy!
The apps are despicable. Seriously. And you are right, if there's no shortage of dick, why bother???
XOXO
I think the apps are rather fun. They end up teaching you a lot about yourself - what you can tolerate, what you cannot. So, as a tool of self-definition, it can be rewarding. As far as others are concerned, I use the apps in several ways. 1/ entertainment - for the human condition - especially the gay one - is ponderous with variety. I learn so much about our community and the different POVs which populate it. No, it's not all pretty or palatable, but it exists and therefore should be studied. 2/ It's about hunting. It's the gay bar, but cuts out the middle man and the alcohol. GPS is an amazing thing - it brings a sense of immediacy to play. Tracking one's prey can be considered good sport. Stranger in town? Well... now likeminded individuals are at your fingertips. As for blocking - I used to think like you, but no more. It's a useful tool. Gets rid of the bad pennies: the bots, the liars, the catfish, and those with whom you share nothing in common. Blocking frees up space on my dance card - I get to see other profiles that I might actually be interested in. Blocking is also about self-preservation. I don't allow others to treat me poorly. And since I don't know these people or owe them anything... f 'em. Block 'em. I'm not here to educate. I'm not here to enlighten or share my world view. It's about getting laid and finding attractive people who may become fwb or friends. I also don't take it seriously at all. It's non-essential. So, it only becomes toxic if I choose to buy into the idea that it's important. It's not. People are important - but when people treat you badly or behave in a manner off-putting... it only makes sense to hit that block button. Saves them time, saves you time and energy. Kizzes.
ReplyDeleteLOL I think the apps are more a tool of self-immolation than self-definition, but it's just an opinion. I do get the hunting thrill, though: it's the raison d'être of many a gay man.
DeleteAnd if you see it like that (a tool to find a tool) it makes sense. The thing is, they are cold and lack humanity. They fulfill the most superficial and vapid aspect of the hunt: the one based on an apparent beauty (which is always in the eye of the beholder, btw) which has been imposed by the gaystapo. But there's people in there and that makes this hunt important. It's impossible to separate the two.
I get that if people are horrible to you, the block button is necessary. But the block button also affects those who think that the interaction in the apps IS essential.
XOXO