I was watching this video and realized how many things we take for granted when we are cisgender men. When we are cisgender men, most times we pay close to no attention to what we wear. We are basically glad it fits, it's the right color and season-appropriate. We seldom think about clothes that actually tell our story, clothes that express what is in our heads. And how we present ourselves is basically how people see us. Have you stopped to think about that?
I cannot imagine having to wear something that does not correspond to our true self at all. Can you imagine you having to do something because you a are a boy when you feel that by doing that you are betraying everything you truly are? Questioning what gender is should not be the issue we as cisgender people sometimes make it to be.
Being queer should allow us to be all-inclusive. Queer people should break the barriers that we are told to hold when expressing gender identity. Ellen Ford brings up the issue of 'ok, if I'm into *** who like *** and then I look like maybe not so much *** anymore, who could possibly be attracted to you?'. You have no idea how many times I've heard cisgender gay men say, 'well, I'm not into women, so why would I like a guy who presents as feminine?' But what they forget is that opinions on style do not take into account what makes people feel comfortable in what they are wearing.
So the next time you wear your cargo pants, or your button down shirt or your trusty coat, think about what it would be like if you'd have to wear something that goes against everything you are and want to express. Yeah, those clothes that you pride yourself from buying at record prices in nondescript stores actually are your narrative. The super hero uniform you wear every day. You feel comfortable in those clothes, you are telling people who you are by what you are wearing and you feel free to behave the way you want to be treated.
Sounds good, right? Just think about it.