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I was watching this video and realized how many things we take for granted when we are cisgender men. When we are cisgender men, most times we pay close to no attention to what we wear. We are basically glad it fits, it's the right color and season-appropriate. We seldom think about clothes that actually tell our story, clothes that express what is in our heads. And how we present ourselves is basically how people see us. Have you stopped to think about that?

I cannot imagine having to wear something that does not correspond to our true self at all. Can you imagine you having to do something because you a are a boy when you feel that by doing that you are betraying everything you truly are? Questioning what gender is should not be the issue we as cisgender people sometimes make it to be.

Being queer should allow us to be all-inclusive. Queer people should break the barriers that we are told to hold when expressing gender identity. Ellen Ford brings up the issue of 'ok, if I'm into *** who like *** and then I look like maybe not so much *** anymore, who could possibly be attracted to you?'. You have no idea how many times I've heard cisgender gay men say, 'well, I'm not into women, so why would I like a guy who presents as feminine?' But what they forget is that opinions on style do not take into account what makes people feel comfortable in what they are wearing.

So the next time you wear your cargo pants, or your button down shirt or your trusty coat, think about what it would be like if you'd have to wear something that goes against everything you are and want to express. Yeah, those clothes that you pride yourself from buying at record prices in nondescript stores actually are your narrative. The super hero uniform you wear every day. You feel comfortable in those clothes, you are telling people who you are by what you are wearing and you feel free to behave the way you want to be treated.

Sounds good, right? Just think about it.

XOXO






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  1. Those transgender ladies which turned into men are often so much more gorgeous than men. There are few of those in gay porn, they are really lovely.
    I've always used clothes not to accentuate anything physical but to accentuate the personality. I always wear green, midnight blue or violet as those colours emit energy and feed people with positive vibes without them even knowing it. That is why I always wear those colours, to brighten up people's days instead of wearing black that shuts up everything like a wall and sends barbed messages to others.

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    1. Yes! There's some trans men in porn that are quite hot.
      And I had no idea those colors were so influential! I will have to pay attention next time I wear them. And I do tend to wear black sometimes. It's my neutral. The more you know....

      XOXO

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  2. I have always been one who wore whatever I wanted as long as I liked it. Now, for me, that wasn't what some might consider female attire, because I liked men's clothes. But men's clothes with a twist and an edge.Living here in Smallville, i do get looks for some of my clothing because it isn't always denim and plaid, or, god forbid, camouflage.
    I say where what makes you feel good. Damn what the world thinks!

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    1. Men's clothes with a twist is my mantra. And I get what you say about getting some looks but good for you! As if people would buy our clothes...
      And I do have some of those camo pants. I call them my gay Duck Dynasty. I bought them in Boystown. LOL

      XOXO

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  3. You’re right. When I shop for clothes (once every five years or so ­čĄú) I don’t have to think about what I’m choosing and what it says about me. I grab what I’ve always worn since I was a young boy. I don’t think twice about it being gender appropriate.

    Our trans brothers and sisters often don’t have that freedom. And we should support the fashion choices if all the members of the queer community.

    XOXO ­čĹĘ‍❤️‍­čĺő‍­čĹĘ

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    1. I know! Most people don't even think about what they wear at all. Being trans or gender non-conforming is a struggle.

      XOXO

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  4. I used to be told I needed to dress for a "better, more professional look." Well, I caved but only when I was forced to head into some kind of fundraiser. I rather hated being dressed up - I'm a casual kind of person so I dress that way. I find people seem to be more comfortable in my presence that way. I also had a high end store ignore me when I walked in dressed in my usual. His loss - I went down the way and blew a bundle. We should never judge people by what they wear. Ever.

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    1. That's a great example. And I think that people absolutely notice when we feel ill at ease with some clothing choice. And I can't believe you had a Pretty Woman moment! LMAOOO.
      Love it.

      XOXO

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  5. I wear what ever i want. Even now. When i go out not in drag, I've been known to wear huge faux for coats or tight waxed jeans. Do i care what people think? Helll no. Fashion to me is representing your personal style...either it's male or female. Done correctly moat people love it.

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    1. That's my Maddie. Of course I knew you don't give a damn. Samesies.
      And you are right. When wearing a certain style, if it's backed up by personality, most people will not bat an eye.

      XOXO

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  6. I had the same issues when young about wearing girly girl dresses 'n shit. Crinolines! NOOOOOOOOO! But for me, it was related to sexual orientation, not gender (although of course I didn't know that at the time).

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    1. Oh, I feel you. And it's something that some of us feel very early. It's just not 'us'. And we rebel.

      XOXO

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  7. I wear t-shirts and black pants and clogs. I dress to please myself and no one else.

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    1. And that's the way it should be!
      After all, it's our bodies and our money. So there.

      XOXO

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  8. Work clothes I buy from Community Aid, not some snazzy, chic boutique. Other wise: winters = sweats and summers = shorts and T-shirts... oh, and the cycling kits. I dress for myself.

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    1. Yeah, but what if you would have to wear other kind/style of clothes for work? What if the Big Box store where you work made you wear short-shorts and tight t-shirts Hooters style? I cannot imagine you in something skin tight. If you wear shorts over your cycling tights!

      XOXO

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