Oh, Jair

Having YouTube attached to blogger (or vice versa) is something that could be a mixed blessing sometimes. One of the good things is that it gives me all kinds of suggestions of things to watch, which can sometimes lead me down some very unusual rabbit holes, but sometimes it does hit the target. 

One of those targets is Jair Woo, who is super cool and has had a channel for awhile now. I think he could fall in the 'influencer' category, but I’ve also found that his backstory is compelling and he brings interesting points of view to the discussion. The fact that he's handsome and personable truly helps, too, Right? And apparently I tuned in at the right time because the topic he was talking about was something I have always found fascinating.

Man Scaping

For a guy to trim his pubic hair or to style it fashionably.

"Bob spent several hours in the bathroom Man Scaping so that he was ready for his big date."

'Hey dude we still hitting the clubs on Saturday night?'

'Yeah but i gotta man scape abit first, it's like a jungle down there!'

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This time Jair was talking about manscaping and I immediately thought about CaliBoi, who was talking just about that in his blog. And I think Upton also mentioned it in some comments. I keep losing track of what people say. I spend too much time online, you know?

So manscaping. I am torn when it comes to it. Yes, I think a little bit of 'scaping can be cool, but I also really like men's secondary sexual characteristics. A fan with facial hair gives me the tingle to mingle, that's for sure. I like a hairy leg, a fuzzy arm, a treasure trail and a wide chest with some hair. I don't mind some landscaping, either. I've even helped men manscape. So, what's a boy to do? The thing is, I don't really have to choose it for myself because I'm not hairy. I can barely grow a beard (and adolescence is a long gone time for me, honey, there's no chance of growing anything at my age) and I do not have a treasure trail or a hairy chest. So I do not agonize over back hair or out of control chest hair that grows into my beard. But many men kind of do. 

Some men agonize over neck hair or knuckle hair or back hair. But you know what? I don't fucking mind back hair. Or ass hair. Or chest hair. Or arm hair. I've had men who were hairy as a bear (heh) and some who weresmooth as an otter (yeah, I know) and they have been super fun to be with and fantastic in bed. And that's what matters to me. Hair and sexual prowess or intelligence or the capability to enjoy chess are not correlated. Hair or no hair I like the man, not his hirsuteness. Does it turn me on when he's got some hair on him? Yes. But he can make me horny even if he is not covered head to toe with hair. I know there's a whole subculture dedicated to hairy men and the men who like them, but why? Why does hair seem to be some kind of unmentioned borderline that some men do not seem eager to cross? Maybe because gay men are a little obsessive when it comes to body types and anything related to what they 'need' in another man to find him attractive? We seem to have created those categories (bear, otter and a whole menagerie) to subdivide our 'preferences', but have we at the same time painted ourselves in a corner by doing it? Doesn't that sound al little reductive? Help me here.

Yeah, my question is, why does it have to be there a Bear culture? What is it with a hairless body that gets the gays all riled up and ready to mingle? Is it tactile? Is it visual? Is it because you can 'see' the muscles better? Is it some Greek aesthetic revival somebody started and never bothered to end? I don't really know. I have never really stopped to think about it. Until now. When I find a man attractive it is due to many things but hair coverage is really non-important variable for me. Sometimes it doesn't even count until he's naked in front of me and then it's kind of an extra surprise whether he's got body hair or not. 

As for specific manscaping, well, your dick is gonna LOOK one or two inches longer if you trim your pubes, so why not? Same for men shaving their balls. Some men enjoy the feeling of smooth balls when playing with them (or doing their monthly ball test, as Big recommends). There's also some men who like their ass smooth. I see nothing wrong with that. The better for the Big Bad Wolf to eat it, am I right? Notice that all of these body-shaving/ trimming techniques have a sensual/sensory goal: pleasure.  But whole body shaving? Isn't that kind of a lot of work? I get that some men like their body hair tamed, but shaved? What about razor burn? I feel like I need to reach for the Aloe lotion just thinking about it.

But bear in mind (heh) that I am talking from the point of view of a non-hairy person, so I have no point of reference. It's not my body what I'd feel pressured to make visually different in order to attract a mate or look more attractive to the eyes of some men. I'm waiting for you to illuminate me. So what do you prefer? In you? In others? Do YOU manscape? What do you use? Go ahead. I have time. I've already manscaped. I'd show you pics, but I'm shy.

Instead, I’ll have JAMES JAMESSON, who I think was the hottest ginger in gay porn, make a point.

XOXO