Oh, it’s brutal out here..!
When we get to the 'ripe' age of forty we realize many, many things. I think that when we are younger, there are many things that can worry us and many options we feel obligated to try or taste. But I think that same pull can make of us kind of become a little bit wiser with age. And I agree with Mark on many points:
We need vacays from our own life: I try not to work after a certain time in the evening and I don't even post in my beloved blog over weekends. I need time for myself and I will have it or else.
To get around things that are apparently simple but difficult to do, we need to get our head on right: self-care in the form of some exercise and a clear mind are sometimes as effective as therapy.
You need to define what is it that you want from life, otherwise, others will choose for you, babes.
Learn to say no. We have to realize that we are not stuck in our lives: we are distracted by too many things. Choose your path. And follow it.
There's a wealth of knowledge in life. Yes, it's fun to learn new things, but experience does not come alone (or easy). There's knowledge in living.
Be very good at one or two things and make sure you do them for a long time. And make sure that people KNOW you're good at them. Fucking own your fabulousness.
We cannot let fear paralyze us. But we cannot be reckless. There's a difference.
If you want to succeed, you're going to fail sometimes. Don't let that break you. (This one has been really hard for me).
Happiness is not an absolute lack of problems, happiness is having problems we can manage.
There's more there, but these are the ones that jumped at me. I'm sure that if you listened to him to got some others I'm missing here. Or maybe you have your own recipe for life that we all should try. So let us know, Constant Reader. After all, you're here. Being fabulous.
XOXO
One thing you forgot to mention is that as you grow older, do not try to be cool, trendy, or au courrant in an attempt to make yourself appear younger. If you respect people, not matter what their age, they will respect you. Like I would never say vacay because it simply doesn't fit my age group, but then my friends in their 20s would never say vacay either.
ReplyDeleteOh, I did not forget that.
DeleteThat is your contribution to the discussion, I imagine. Also, I don't think you'd say 'vacay' because you did not come of age in the nineties. It's a very nineties thing, very Elder Millennial. Your twentysomething friends would probably be more into the Gen Z lingo, also. Vacay probably sounds quaint to them now...
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Excellent list. Great advice that can be boiled down to: do you.
ReplyDeleteDo what you feel and know is best for you even in the face of fear and failure!
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PS Say vacay all you want; we all know what it means.
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Right!
DeleteThat You do You advice is quite precise and.... good?
LMAOOO
I like the word Vacay.
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This is a great video, I liked it very much! There's a lot of truth in it. Life requires courage, that's the bottom line.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad!
DeleteAnd yes, there's a lot of truth in those 15+ minutes. I think that living itself is an exercise in patience and sheer chutzpah.
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Big says,
ReplyDeleteOh, so many truths. Oh, so many life lessons that sometimes...sometimes, we just need to learn the hard way. Fear of rejection? I still go through that but I submit my work anyway. A younger crowd is all about instant gratification rather than following the experienced path to success. I've recently been faced with that crowd --- and I'm learning to "let them do them."
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Oh yes.
DeleteAnd you know what? What we learn the hard way always stays with us. Not that everything has to be a hard lesson, but those are the ones that stay with us mostly.
The newest generation is indeed very impatient, very 'now'. They'll learn.
XOXO
I think I agree with a lot of the points too, excellent video. And having your own times important for me. I purposely black out certain weekends just for myself especially if my social calendar is getting busy. And it's also one reason I refuse to blog when I'm on vacation or even for that matter get post ready to be scheduled. I will never be one of those bloggers. When I'm on vacation I am on vacation honey. And I noticed more and more I'm starting to spend less and less time online. I'm even considering getting rid of Instagram.
ReplyDeleteSame!
DeleteI do need my 'me' time, also. I don't mind being on my own or with just a very few people. I can be social, but I need my own space.
Being chronically online can be exhausting. I don't know how the Insta influencers do it. Nope.
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You try crawling to the age of 63
ReplyDeleteHAHAHAHA
DeleteOh, a young one! I learned that 40 now is considered 'middle aged'. Which does not make sense to me, because some of the most vibrant people I know are over sixty.
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